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ReDox

July 14, 2008

So, in short:

1. I am alive.
2. Thank you for asking.
3. Things were not okay.
4. But now they are better.

That's...pretty much the whole of it. Hello, y'all.

I've been dreading this entry for a long time, but it finally occurred to me that, hell. I know that I owe everyone an explanation as to my absence, and I'm tired of being alienated from my own website. So, I've made the decision, all of...oh, approximately six minutes ago, apparently, to just come out and tell everyone what's been going on. I'm just going to type without editing, and post this before I start thinking about it too much. So let's all grab a bottle of something, and settle in for a Very Special Episode of Miss Doxie.

As you have probably guessed, things broke bad over here in the Doxie land. And, oddly, it all started on the VERY DAMN DAY of my last post, which shows you precisely how long it's taken me to come to terms with this mess. On that night, back in December, Dukay and I had a talk about our future, and it...did not go well. To put things in the simplest terms, we'd been together for six years, and I wanted more. Indeed, I'd expected more; I'd been thinking our future was right around the corner. It turned out, however, that he wasn't ready. And lo, there was great mourning in the land, and the rending of many adorable garments that had been purchased on sale.

But then, around 1 a.m. ON THAT SAME NIGHT, my sister called with the news that, hello! She'd just gotten engaged. And so I switched gears and screamed and hollered and broke out the champagne and threatened to expose her most vile secrets to one and all if I was not designated as the maid of honor THAT SECOND, because this engagement is...perfect. It's just perfect.

Ziz is marrying Bob of the Baby Burning Video, and everyone who loves her could not be more pleased. And, hearing their voices on the phone, and seeing how they looked at each other when I saw them the next week -- I don't know. I guess I saw how wonderful it could be to simply be in love, and to look at someone and know that he's just so excited about the prospect of spending the rest of his life with you, he can't wait to get started. I mean...y'all? Bob learned how to play the ukulele for Ziz. THE FUCKING UKULELE. (WHICH FRANKLY I JUST HAD TO SPELL CHECK, TO BE PERFECTLY HONEST WITH YOU.) And that is some devotion, right there.

But, the timing was interesting, to say the least, and it forced me to put a lot of shit in perspective. And because I am not particularly good with perspective (there are angles involved! Like in geometry! In which I believe I earned a C!), that whole business took me a while.

And so, here I am. And Dukay and I are no more. It's nobody's fault. But in the end, it was the very best possible thing for everyone involved, even if it took me a long time to figure that out.

And, I've been fucking dreading saying this to you, sweet internet, because I hate to disappoint anyone. I've put this life in front of you, and that life just didn't work out. In fact, I've been terrified of admitting my failure for so long, I've actually been avoiding my own website for fear of the awful things that are inevitably going on in the comments. Seriously, I haven't even looked at them since...January? Probably January. And, allow me to tell you why: because I am a big enormous coward, THAT is why. Every once in a while, Cookie will come into my office, her eyes the size of dinner plates, and say, "Do you...know what is happening? With your website? BECAUSE IT IS ANARCHY OVER THERE, DO YOU HAVE A GUN," and I would groan and put my head in my hands and think that dear Lord, I cannot handle this in the SLIGHTEST, because I am a woman with Issues Already, and my poor head is already filled with enough self-doubt and crushed pride to fill up the whole entire internet, and I am just going to run away to Guam, so be it.

So...wait. Yeah, that's neither here nor there, but seeing as I'm not editing this (HELLO), I might as well go ahead and tell you that I haven't looked at whatever drama is raging over there in the last entry. And I don't intend to. Because, I'm chicken. And because I really did have my reasons for being gone so long.

But, okay, there was actually a point I was attempting to find here, and if I recall, the point is that I've been dreading this whole business. I didn't want to tell y'all. I didn't want to ruin anyone's day, and bring you down to the place I lived. And I also wondered whether this site could even survive, with just me at the helm. After all, Dukay was a huge part of my life for so long. He's in almost every picture I've posted, and I've talked about him in pretty much every entry. Because, he was my world -- after all, I spent almost seven years (SEVEN. YEARS.) thinking that he was my future, and crafting a life around him. So I guess it couldn't have been any other way.

The fact is that Dukay was a great friend -- one of my best friends -- for a long time. We had a great time together. He made me laugh, and I don't have a single bad thing in the world to say about him. It's just that when push came to shove, we were in different places. We wanted different things, and I finally realized that what I wanted -- more than anything -- was someone who just wanted me. And, as simple and lame and naive as that may sound, it wasn't what I had. And it broke my heart.

Sooooo. For a long time, I didn't write, because I didn't have anything to say. And I guess it's okay to admit that I was pretty fucking depressed for a while. I mean, yeah, this was a small tragedy, in the grand scheme of things. People deal with worse shit every day. But it hit me hard, and I stopped being okay for a little while. And I stopped laughing. Incidentally, as you can imagine, I was a fucking JOY to be around, and I will be forever grateful to poor Cookie and my other wonderful friends who tolerated my post-teen displays of angst. As in, I am super glad I did not decide to write any poetry during this period. I am equally glad that I did not dye my hair. (Because, honestly, I totally thought about dyeing my hair, and it would be BLACK to match my FEELINGS, except that my eyebrows would still be BLOND to match...like, SOCIETY, or SOMETHING, and let's just say that I settled for purchasing a few Smiths albums on iTunes, and that probably ended up better for everyone involved, frankly Mr. Shankly, the end.)

But, okay. So here I am. And, I'm not sad anymore. Instead, every day, I've gotten better. And at this point, I'm feeling pretty awesome, actually; in fact, I'm happier than I remember being in years. Things work out the way they're supposed to, it turns out. And I've learned that sometimes, you're running a race that you really don't want to win.

Similarly, I have learned that sometimes it is important to speak in cliches. Today, evidently, is that day. So if anyone needs a gift horse looked in the mouth, I am totally your girl.

But point being, that starting now, a new generation of Doxie is underway. I'm going to try to make some changes, like...well, to the About Me page, for starters, but don't expect me to find THAT any time soon, because HOLY SHIT I forgot everything I ever knew about code, turns out. I don't even know where my actual control panel is. And, since I have a new computer (I'm on a Mac! Could you tell? Is it prettier?), I've lost all of my bookmarks, so all these planned updates may be an exercise in supreme futility, but WHATEVER, I'm going to see what I can do, and hope for the best. Because, that is the way the cookie crumbles! And the ball bounces! And there are too many cooks in the kitchen! And etc.!

But, anyway. There you have it. I'm so sorry that I couldn't talk about any of this until now; I just wasn't ready. But I'm finally at the beginning of Doxie, Version 2.0, and I'm truly excited about it. I'm looking forward to new stories, new people, old friends, lots of wine, and really interesting bruises. I'm headed out on my brand new, shiny life. And if you'd maybe like to come along, I'd be honored to have you.

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506 Comments

Aw, Doxie, I'm sorry. I'm glad to read you're okay though. I was kinda worried.

Posted by: Jill | July 15, 2008 01:30 AM

You, missy ... have been missed.

Hugs (for everything including WELCOME BACK!)

Ang

Posted by: Ang | July 15, 2008 01:37 AM

aww, i'm glad to hear you're doing okay! i have you in my reader, but i still checked back every once in a while when i managed to convince myself that it was broken & just not telling me when you updated. looking forward to 2.0!

Posted by: sarah | July 15, 2008 01:40 AM

Am so glad you've come back to the internet. I can really relate to your Dukay situation; sometimes I find myself thinking the same of my 5+ year relationship.

I'm so excited for the New Doxie! I hope to read more dog stories soon!

Posted by: Emily | July 15, 2008 01:44 AM

I think I can safely say from the entirety of the internet that we are so glad to have you back, lady, and even more glad (gladder?) that you are doing better.

Posted by: missbanshee | July 15, 2008 01:48 AM

Oh Lord, MD. I missed you so much, and I'm so sorry about Dukay. I can totally understand why it took you a while to get over him and I'm so glad you didn't dye your pretty hair. (: I'm looking forward to the new... thing. Generation (yeah, that.) of Doxie, too.
Don't disappear for several months again!

Posted by: Emily | July 15, 2008 01:50 AM

I was worried about you! I'm glad you're back and happy and all that, but I'm really sorry about everything.

Posted by: Tasha | July 15, 2008 01:50 AM

Oh Doxie, so many HUGS and WINE sent your way! I went through a break up of a long term thing very publicly on my blog 2 years ago. Am not sure I got over it any faster that way.

Glad you're back, now, tell us: HOW ARE THE DOGS?!

Posted by: MazingAmy | July 15, 2008 02:04 AM

Oh wow. Talk about hitting close to home (to stick with the cliche theme!). Hmm...I can't seem to get this started here... To cut to the chase, your December was my June. I still can't eat. Can't sleep. Can't...anything. And also, don't really care. But, to hear that someone at least somewhat similar to myself has gone through this and has come through the other side of it makes me think that maybe there actually IS another side of this. And that helps. I haven't mentioned any of this on my site yet, and probably won't for awhile. At least not until I can come up with something other than inviting people to come over and hit me in the head with a brick. But hey! It'll get better. Yes? Yes.

Oops...long comment. Sorry 'bout that. I just wanted to let you know that your post (while letting people know that you are in fact, alive!) helped. So hey, if you're ever in NC, the wine is on me! :)

Posted by: barnmouse | July 15, 2008 02:06 AM

BOY do I hear you. Do I EVER. At least you didn't blog every agonizing bitter moment of your breakup (not...my finest hour...no)!

*internet hugs!*

Yes. That sucked, for you. Am glad you are feeling chipper about it, it is good you took all the time you needed to. I am thinking cheery thoughts for you! Laced with wine.

Many sunny days ahead for you, you gorgeous funny thing you.

Posted by: Lissa | July 15, 2008 02:22 AM

I'm really glad you're alive and made it through to the other side. Welcome back.

Posted by: lizardek | July 15, 2008 02:33 AM

So very glad to hear from you, my dear! Sorry to hear about you and Dukay, but ecstatic to hear that you are well on your way to Happy :-) Looking forward to more crazy stories about Bo in the future ;-)

Posted by: Heather | July 15, 2008 02:35 AM

Dear Miss Doxie,
Welcome back! I am sorry that life sucked for a time. I am very happy to her that it is better now. I was just thinking of you today actually, and sadly checked your site again wondering if my blog feed was malfunctioning...and then now to get a whole! new! post! is more exciting than I can put in words right now. I hope writing this site is fun for you again.
As far as what you want from life...I could not agree more. I applaud you for putting yourself out there and trying. I hope you're mostly heartwhole again.

Posted by: Jen | July 15, 2008 02:36 AM

*hug*

Posted by: Carolyn | July 15, 2008 02:36 AM

More Doxie! RSS feeds rule.

Posted by: K | July 15, 2008 02:43 AM

I am so sorry, I know how hard this is, I went through the same thing, and after I got over being sad? I had some of the best years of my life, all in Atlanta. So I hope you take time to enjoy yourself, have fun, and enjoy being just you for a while.

Posted by: andrea | July 15, 2008 02:44 AM

Ohhh Doxie... you're the one that we want :-)
Thanks for coming back, and don't feel you have to apologise, the internet loves you just as you are.
(sorry, sweetness overkill, but true)

Posted by: Clover | July 15, 2008 02:47 AM

So very glad you're ok (I was so sure something bad had happened with your family. I guess it sort of did, but...oh forget it. I'm glad you're all alive.)

You'll probably get a lot of the "I've been there" but many of us have, and you know once you get through the dark part you start to find out you like yourself a lot more this way, and that's usually the time you find the person you're supposed to be with. (That's what happened to me. I decided I was happy being alone and then I met my hubby.) Big things are in store for you (like lots of wine!) I can feel it.
Lots of good karma your way! Glad you're back. (How's Bo???)

Posted by: mama speak | July 15, 2008 02:59 AM

Well I'm not gonna lie, I was very excited to see that you'd updated again! I'm sorry that it wasn't a really fun topic, but I'm glad to hear that you're doing better. You have an incredible sense of humor and an enviable way with words. You certainly haven't lost either of those. :)
Best of luck to you, and just so you know I'm currently coveting your new computer. I'm a die-hard Mac girl and a new computer sounds absolutely delightful.

Posted by: Sarah | July 15, 2008 03:27 AM

I was so excited to see a new post. I'm sorry about your breakup. It's so hard to say goodbye to someone who is a key part of so many of your memories. I'm glad you are doing better and that your sense of humor is intact. Can't wait to see how your new life unfolds!

Posted by: Sharla | July 15, 2008 03:37 AM

Welcome back. I am sorry you had so much to go through. Looking forward to some great stories and new adventures that don't involve ducks on pants!

Take great care and be gentle on yourself.

Posted by: veebeewhy | July 15, 2008 03:58 AM

I'm glad you're doing better, and that you're back.

Posted by: Allison | July 15, 2008 04:01 AM

In a weird way (in which I freak out many people, regularly) I kind of thought that this is what was keeping you away.

My own contribution is this: I dated a guy for 8 years. Went through my own not so great to be around period after the breaking up, and also decided, well, hell, I think I'll move.

About 9 months later, I was resettled, enjoying life, and happily working when some guy asked me to lunch. (It is more interesting than that, but if I tell the actual lines, anyone who knows us would know I'm "Boulder"). Cut to an engagement 3 weeks later, followed by an elopement at not even 4 months of knowing one another.

!6 years this past week. Yes, I'm old (chronologically, but not in my heart). But? Am still deliriously happy. I mean, I spend my days and nights with a guy that makes me feel loved, and can also have me laughing so hard that I fear I might choke to death.

That other guy? Well, he made me who I was when my husband fell in love with me. Some lucky dude will owe Dukay a serious debt when he meets you.

PS - My mac thinks your mac makes you look so great typing on this web site!

Posted by: Boulder | July 15, 2008 04:16 AM

Leigh! My heart goes out to you, lady. Heartbreak is really the worst of Suck. It's so good that you're finally getting some peace over it, and it's great that you decided to post. Welcome back!

Posted by: Tracy27 | July 15, 2008 04:21 AM

I'm so sorry to hear that - but it's far better to find out you're not both heading in the same directions now rather then further down the line - it does get easier with time - and you deserve someone who is crazy for you.
Glad you're back though!

Posted by: joanne | July 15, 2008 04:23 AM

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Posted by: Kristin (delic8genius) | July 15, 2008 04:25 AM


*hugs*

I will let you know that it is just prior to 5am, and I'm about to leave for the hospital to have a c-section, and I feel that this entry is an excellent portent. :) Glad to have you back, sorry things were the suck for a while. *more hugs*

Posted by: kristina | July 15, 2008 04:50 AM

I was just thinking about you! So happy that you're back, we've really missed you. Totally understand that you needed time away, everyone does. But you don't need to be afraid of the internet! What's best for you is all that matters. Anyway, glad you're back and I am crazy psyched about Miss Doxie 2.0, I have a feeling the sequel is going to be better than the original. Like how Buffy the Vampire Slayer the TV show was better than the movie. Or something. Anyway, Yay!!!!

Posted by: Jessica | July 15, 2008 04:58 AM

Welcome back Miss D...I missed ya! I've been through it too, it sucks and it hurts but eventully you get to the point where you stop hurting, and realize that now you are free to find the person who will think you are the most amazing thing on earth. Have a great day, and thanks for the update!

Posted by: Jen | July 15, 2008 05:24 AM

I will quickly delurk to say I've missed you terribly, you are my favorite blogger, no contest. I'm so glad you're O.K.. I'm going back to my lurking now.

Posted by: karen | July 15, 2008 06:19 AM

Welcome back! I'm glad you're feeling better.

Posted by: Maria | July 15, 2008 06:21 AM

delurking to say that i missed you terribly, and seriously? dukay was not this website-- BO WILL WRITE IT FOR YOU. plus, as cheesy as it sounds, it will be good again. you are fabulous! and marvelous! it may not always feel like it, but it will be very very good eventually. (here's hoping it's very very soon, yes?!?) :)

{{{{{{{{{{{{{{HUGS!}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

Posted by: aly | July 15, 2008 06:35 AM

I'm so glad you're back! I'm sorry for everything you went through, but glad you're better now. Break out some wine and hurt yourself so you have more stories!

Posted by: Kate | July 15, 2008 07:06 AM

We're glad to have you back.

Posted by: Andrea | July 15, 2008 07:10 AM

I'm really sorry things went to Craptown, but we're glad you're back and feeling better, we've missed you!

Posted by: Jenn | July 15, 2008 07:14 AM

I'm sorry that you were having a rough time but I'm glad you're back. I'm looking forward to the new and improved Doxie 2.0!

Posted by: Amanda | July 15, 2008 07:19 AM

Welcome back! I'm sorry for what you went through, and sorry that you were afraid to disappoint us.

Posted by: Erin | July 15, 2008 07:23 AM

Huggers!
So glad you're back, so sad it was not due to an extended episode of boogie-ing down to ABBA that got so frenzied Time sort-of warped away.
be super kind to yourself, you deserve it.

Posted by: freya | July 15, 2008 07:26 AM

Sometimes life stinks. But things are looking up since you're back! (Yes, I'm just picking up some of the leftover clichés here.) It was a very good thing to see Miss Doxie all lit up with a new post in my reader this morning! You have been missed, and you do NOT disappoint. Welcome back, and here's to better times ahead.

Posted by: wyo | July 15, 2008 07:29 AM

So happy to see you back. I don't blame you for staying away and taking the time to take care of yourself.

Posted by: Erin | July 15, 2008 07:30 AM

I am so happy to have you back and was filled with glee when I opened my reader this morning! Hugs to you for all you've been through the past several months. Welcome back!

Posted by: EB | July 15, 2008 07:38 AM

I wish I knew you well enough to hug you and squeal, "You're Back!". Sorry to hear about the split, but having been at a point in my life when I was convinced I'd stay single forever, things have a funny way of working out.

Day by day and that what doesn't kill you makes you stronger (just adding to your cliches).

Posted by: Fairly Odd Mother | July 15, 2008 07:50 AM

We're all ready to ride into the next part of your adventure with you. I'm sooooo happy to have you back blogging!!

Posted by: Bonney | July 15, 2008 07:50 AM

Yay! You are back! But, boo! I'm sorry you had a craptastic start to the year! But wait - yay! The year is only halfway over, so you have plenty of time to have a fabulous 2008 after all!

Posted by: Velma | July 15, 2008 07:52 AM

I'm glad you're back too and I'm sorry for the loss of your relationship with Dukay. I am excited for your new beginning though! Bring it on!

Posted by: Em | July 15, 2008 07:59 AM

Welcome back Miss Doxie. I'd refrained from commenting on your last post, because I knew you'd be back when you were ready. Thank goodness that time has come! The Internet missed you.

Posted by: Susan | July 15, 2008 07:59 AM

Welcome back, we're still here and we will still read and laugh along with you!

Posted by: Tonja | July 15, 2008 08:02 AM

Hey, it sounds like you've been through a whole lot of suck. It makes total sense that it took some time to work your way back to the ole' internet. Thanks for coming back. You were missed. :)

Posted by: Helloheather | July 15, 2008 08:11 AM

Oh Miss Doxie,
I've missed you so! Don't apologize for being Dukay-free, we're here for you and your awesomely hilarious storytelling, not a stupid, smelly boy! I totally expected this to be a Dear John-type entry but I'm happy to see you're just back. With a vengeance.

Congrats to Ziz and I'm assuming your Dad's OK? That was my first thought when you said things sucked for a while.

Posted by: JP | July 15, 2008 08:13 AM

Aww, I'm so sorry Miss Doxie. It's great to have you back. Looking forward to see more posts from you...

Amy :)

Posted by: Amy | July 15, 2008 08:13 AM

Welcome back! I'm glad you're doing better now!

BIG HUG!
j

PS: Have you been reading FBORFW? OMG

Posted by: canknitian | July 15, 2008 08:16 AM

I was sooo happy to see that my homepage changed this morning! I read it out loud to Kraut and Fritzie Schnitzle....Here's to your brand new shiny life! Glad to have you back.

Posted by: Miss Cakes | July 15, 2008 08:18 AM

*big sigh* Oh, so very glad you're back.
None of those other blogs can compare to you, baby:-)
A thousand thanks for coming back!

Posted by: Sarah | July 15, 2008 08:23 AM

You know, life sucks for everyone every once and a while. It's too bad this had to happen to you, but knowing what you want, now, is a very cool thing and I'm just glad to have been shocked outta my shoes at seeing a post, any post, from your beautiful mind this morning when I checked my RSS feeds. Hang in there, chica, and congrats to Ziz.

Posted by: Scraps | July 15, 2008 08:29 AM

Welcome back. You've been missed.

Posted by: Maria | July 15, 2008 08:39 AM

Oh my goodness. I'm so sorry you've had a sojourn through the Land of Ass. I was really just hoping you'd gotten tired of blogging. BUT, I'm glad to hear you're feeling better in spite of (and thanks to) everything. Good for you, darlin.'

Posted by: jive turkey | July 15, 2008 08:42 AM

A mail from my friend with the heading "MISS DOXIE'S BACK!" had me rushing over here to see if she was just playin' with me. I'm so glad she wasn't, and I'm so glad you're entering Doxie 2.0 and are happy.

I totally agree with Boulder - "Some lucky dude will owe Dukay a serious debt when he meets you." MadCat owes the current me to the 8 years I spent with Deafboy, and all three of us couldn't be happier with where we are in our lives now. I wish the same for you.

All smooshy aside: WHAT DOES BO SAY?

Posted by: ysabelkid | July 15, 2008 08:45 AM

Welcome back. You were sorely missed!

Posted by: lena | July 15, 2008 08:50 AM

Hallelujah!!! You're back! I've checked every single day - no kidding - even weekends - since you left. Glad you're back.

Posted by: Janice | July 15, 2008 08:51 AM

Yaaaaaaaay! Doxie's back! I can get my Doxie fix! Because it's ALL ABOUT ME! And exclamation points!

I've been a lurker for a LONG time, and am sorry to hear about you and Dukay, but happy to hear about Ziz and Bob, and that you are getting better.

Come pour your li'l pea-pickin' heart out to the internets. We'll understand. :)

Posted by: Damsel | July 15, 2008 08:54 AM

Welcome back! Thank you for being so honest and open with a whole big group of people you don't know. I can only imagine how hard everything is that you have been going through. Know that you made the right decision and that imagining your life to be different than it was is a super scary and totally exciting/empowering thing.

Posted by: Sarah | July 15, 2008 08:56 AM

HURRAY! My very favorite, very funniest writer is BACK! Love to you, and hugs and all that supportive jazz. No, I promise I'm not a stalker (would be difficult, since I live in Japan) but I am really, really, really glad you are back!

My condolences on the difficulties and sorrow, and congratulations on the new found happiness!

Yaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaayyy!!

Posted by: Carolie | July 15, 2008 08:59 AM

Doxie,
First, welcome back. Second you never need to apologize to us, we are grateful for you and love you and your writing very much. You are not a coward at all, you are my hero and I am so excited you are back, we were all very worried, in fact no one said a single bad thing about you in the other posts comments, it was all "waiting up Mom" comments as we were trying to figure out what had happened, but we all had hope and now we know why, and it's not your fault. I am sorry, and I will be sending metaphorical boxes of wine your way soon!

Posted by: Jen | July 15, 2008 09:01 AM

Hot diggity damn! I was, like, THISCLOSE to deleting you from my feed reader two days ago. I'm so glad I held out.

Also: Glad you aren't dead! That's really great news! In fact, you breaking up with Dookie (is that too classless? To call him that?) is a much better alternative to the whole death thing.

Hey, if you need an idea to post, how are the doggies?

Posted by: Taylor | July 15, 2008 09:02 AM

Yay! You came back! I'm sorry that this past year has been shit, however. It's good to see that you seem to be on the other side of it now. Can't wait to see what Doxie 2.0 has in store!

Posted by: Nicole P. | July 15, 2008 09:03 AM

Yay!!! Oh YAY!!!!!
WHOOPIE and happy dance!

Posted by: deb | July 15, 2008 09:03 AM

And then I read your post - and am sad for you being so sad.
Please don't feel you owe us anything. No explanations..no nothing. We just want you to be happy.
Speaking as an old(er) woman, I have been there, done that, NOT fun. But thankfully, life goes on.

Oh bla dee, oh bla dah

and all that rot.

Posted by: deb | July 15, 2008 09:08 AM

Sometimes life is too much like the Garth Brooks song "Unanswered Prayers" and we can't appreciated it until there is some time and distance.

Welcome back. :)

Posted by: Traci | July 15, 2008 09:15 AM

So glad to see you in my reader this morning, and as you said, it could be worse - I was worried about the health of your parents. Not to undermine the pain of a broken heart-- been there; SUX.

I'm glad your heart is recovering and I have something FUNNY to read again!

Welcome back.

Posted by: anneglamore | July 15, 2008 09:18 AM

Hey - uh, I wanted to say sorry for going all creepy-stalkery in the comments on the last entry. You really should read through them, though, I think that we will make you laugh.

Posted by: Andrea | July 15, 2008 09:21 AM

Oh my. First, thank God for RSS feeds, otherwise I'd have missed this -- I'd about given up on you ever returning back to this world.

Second, I'm so sorry about Dukay. I'm sure it's for the best, you will get what you deserve, and I'm glad you're on the mend.

Posted by: jonniker | July 15, 2008 09:23 AM

So glad that you are back Doxie! And I'm very sorry to hear what you've been going through. Incidentally, I am currently going through something very similar. Thirteen years (13!!) and a broken engagement later and here I am still trying to wade my way through it all. But, you've given me hope that I too can come out on the other side of this and feel happy again. So, thanks for that!

Posted by: Carley | July 15, 2008 09:27 AM

Welcome Back! Sorry about the cause of your absence, but looking forward to the ride ahead.

Posted by: Mandee | July 15, 2008 09:28 AM

First of all, HOLY SHIT YOU'RE BACK! That alone calls for a glass (or bottle) of wine in celebration. Secondly, sorry about Dukay. I have a friend going through a similar situation - after seven years too. And it sucks. But I'm glad to hear you're doing better now.

Posted by: Marriage-101 | July 15, 2008 09:40 AM

I hope this isn't too weird, but I swear to goodness that just this past weekend I was in the shower and I thought to myself, "Where in the world has Miss Doxie gotten herself to?" and then I wondered if maybe a breakup was, in fact, the cause of your prolonged absence. And here you are.

I am super glad you're back and that you and your family are well. I'm so sorry to hear about you and Dukay, but you absolutely do deserve someone who is gung-ho about you, and I trust that you will find him.

And OF COURSE you are enough by yourself for this here website, silly girl! YOU are the reason we all keep coming here, and you're the reason we're all so thrilled to see you again.

Posted by: Lawyerish | July 15, 2008 09:41 AM

Honey, it sounds like every last one of us wants to buy you a drink, so I propose that Doxie 2.0 starts with a wine-tasting roadtrip to visit all of your fans.

I'm in Charlottesville, and we have about 20 local wineries. In case that information is pertinent.

Posted by: wwcutie | July 15, 2008 09:41 AM

Hi Doxie:

Glad you are back - not so warm and fuzzy about the reason you were away for so long - i totally think that Dukay has lost track of his senses... but oh well. Here's to the new Shiny Doxie! Welcome Back!

Posted by: Scott | July 15, 2008 09:41 AM

Oh Leigh-- as we waited for your return I started reading other blogs and when one of them talked about you I wondered, "What happened to Miss Doxie?" I was afraid that something had happened to your father and, while the end of you and Dukay is the end of your little family and heartbreaking I am glad that your Dad is ok. Having put in a good 3 years in a similar situation I can empathize. If you need to vent (albeit to someone who doesn't actually know you) drop me a line.
Welcome back!

Posted by: Meredith | July 15, 2008 09:46 AM

Welcome back! The internets have missed you. Glad to hear you're doing so well now, even if it sucked getting there.

Also, just a warning: Movable Type has gotten even more difficult to handle in the time you've been gone. I'd recommend considering a switch to Typepad -- it's all the shininess of MT, but they do the hard parts for you.

Posted by: Gwen | July 15, 2008 09:48 AM

SO GLAD TO SEE YOU BACK.

So sorry to hear about you and Dukay.

HOWEVER, there was fear in me that there had been a family tragedy; a sickness, a death, something... AND I'm so glad that it was only a break up and not something like that. (Not that the break up isn't bad, but, it's not DEATH, even when it feels like it sometimes.)

Anyways, many happy returns!! :)

Posted by: Amity | July 15, 2008 09:52 AM

I'm so sorry to hear about all you've been through, but I'm glad you're back. And on a Mac, even.

Posted by: miguelina | July 15, 2008 09:53 AM

Also, super congrats to Ziz and your whole fam on the soon-to-be new member of the clan. :)

Posted by: Amity | July 15, 2008 09:54 AM

Glad to see your back but sorry about the break up! You'll find the right one when you least expect it. That is what happened with me. Meanwhile have fun with the journey!

Posted by: Lilie | July 15, 2008 09:56 AM

So happy you're back! First thing at work today, um, besides work...no not really, FIRST THING, was to call my husband and let him know you're back up and running and to check out your post. Because you are. Up and running.

Posted by: Sars | July 15, 2008 09:56 AM

Welcome back, Leigh. Having been there and done that (and really, who amongst us has not?), I think I can safely say that 1) everyone needs to work it out in their own way, and it sounds like you did that, and 2) I personally blogged through it so I was that JOY TO BE AROUND for the entire internet, so I grant winning points to you for waiting to come back. ;)

Tis very nice to "see" you and also to see that you are just fine.

But the next time I work on a picture of Dukay I am totally adding extra neck fat instead of taking it out. Just sayin'.

Posted by: Mir | July 15, 2008 09:58 AM

Welcome back. Sorry to hear about the breakup - you have survived though & I know much better lurks ahead.

Fierce Frank says HI to Bo. I'm sure Bo has developed some new tricks to amuse all of us.

Again, welcome back!

Posted by: JudgeMel | July 15, 2008 09:58 AM

I just got out of a loooong term thing too, basically same reason, although I'm pretty sure he was having a torrid love affair with his Xbox when I wasn't around. Sometimes it really is for the best.

Posted by: Hanna | July 15, 2008 10:01 AM

I'll echo everyone else and say that I'm so glad you're back, and I look forward to more stories.

In the meantime, I'm sure I speak for all guys when I say that we are sorry for your pain from the breakup, but we are not disappointed that Dukay's gone from the scene. Come to Kansas City and I'll marry you (metaphorically only, though, since I'm already married)!

Posted by: mark | July 15, 2008 10:04 AM

Hey Miss. Doxie, so glad you're back. I had the same thing go down in October. I took to posting photos of tea, installing my wine fridge as a nightstand and forgetting about a haircut. So cheers to you. I love reading your stuff and look forward to many many more posts! Things are looking up(ish), lady!

Posted by: Harpy | July 15, 2008 10:16 AM

I can't tell you how glad I am to see this post. I've missed you and worried about you and now I'm so excited for you. Can't wait to see what's in store for Miss Doxie. Welcome back sweetie.

Posted by: catherino | July 15, 2008 10:20 AM

Miss Doxie, it makes me sad that in the midst of a personal crisis, you were under the added burden of worrying about how your readers would react. You owe us nothing, let alone apologies. It's good to have you back.

Posted by: Mrs. Whatsit | July 15, 2008 10:21 AM

I'm so sorry about the reason for your absense, but am so, so glad you're back. We've missed you!

Posted by: SpaceCase | July 15, 2008 10:28 AM

You had to go break bad on ukuleles... hmmm... but, well, you're forgiven. Awfully nice to have Miss Doxie back in fine fettle.

Posted by: Howard | July 15, 2008 10:28 AM

OMG! Miss Doxie I cannot even tell you how FREAKING excited I am that you are OK and back and better. And I can't even believe you apologized for anything because it's just a blog and it's not like we could be mad at you. I mean, we LOVE you!!

Posted by: Stefanie | July 15, 2008 10:33 AM

Okay, I might need to get some new hobbies or get out of the house more, but I was SO excited to see your post in my feed reader today. Please don't at all feel you have to apologize to any of us. The mother in me was worried, and I'm so sorry about the break up, but also glad that someone didn't die (like yourself) because that was my real concern and fear.

Welcome back. Please can we have Bo pics? :-)

Tricia

Posted by: Tricia | July 15, 2008 10:41 AM

You are not a disappointment. You didn't fail. Don't ever forget that.

We missed you and we're glad you're back!

Posted by: Kizz | July 15, 2008 10:45 AM

Miss Doxie! I'm so glad to see you back on the internets! Congratulations to you for being brave enough to come back and post about what you went through! I'm sure this new phase of your life will be even more awesome than your last. And congrats to Ziz!!

I can't wait to hear more from you, really!

Posted by: Erin | July 15, 2008 10:48 AM

Welcome back! I'm delurking to say I really missed reading your witty, irreverent posts. I'm sorry to hear about the recent life events. SOOOOOO glad you're back, and I look forward to 2.0!

Posted by: Cindy A. | July 15, 2008 10:56 AM

I figured you were trapped under a tower of Southeastern Reporters or being held hostage by Westlaw or something, and I'm a little sorry to find out how off course I was. It seems like you have the proper perspective, though - you deserve someone who wants a life with you as much as you want a life with them - on happiness. So may much more of it head squarely in your direction, crash headlong into you, and your world be nothing but puppies and rainbows.

And I'm glad you're back.

Posted by: Lisa | July 15, 2008 10:58 AM

Miss Doxie girl, you rock. In a massive way. The internet can breathe easy, once again. Not that we meant to saddle you with that responsibility, but dude, you have some rabid fans out there. Hope the dogs are well and cuddly.

Posted by: jenny | July 15, 2008 11:04 AM

It's not original but it's sincere:
We missed you soooo much!

Posted by: Cat | July 15, 2008 11:09 AM

I just want to tell you that you were MISSED! Welcome back and let the water flows where it wants...you will be FINE in the end. We all love you and GREATNESS and GOODNESS are waiting for your...uhmmm somewhere :-)
XOXOXO

Posted by: Isabel | July 15, 2008 11:09 AM

I'm so glad you're back. You don't need to apologize for not updating; life is really crappy sometimes and not sharing the blow-by-blow of that with the Internet (uh, not that *I* do that or anything) isn't necessarily a bad thing.

Anyway, YAY! Welcome back!!

Posted by: Kathleen | July 15, 2008 11:11 AM

I'm sorry to hear about your breakup, that always sucks. But am so glad to see you back on the internets...missed reading you.

Posted by: Sandy | July 15, 2008 11:13 AM

well, thank goodness you are okay!

Posted by: melanie | July 15, 2008 11:14 AM

Doxie arisen!

I empathize to the umpteenth, and am joyous at your return! Here's to all that's new and lies ahead.

Posted by: Bay | July 15, 2008 11:25 AM

I am so glad you're back and so sorry things were bad but glad they are better :)

Posted by: Kateastrophe | July 15, 2008 11:25 AM

Also so happy you are back, and so sorry that things sucked, but happy again that they are better! We missed you very much!

Posted by: Melissa | July 15, 2008 11:29 AM

So glad you're back. And so sorry to hear about the trauma you've been going through.

I hope it all looks up from here! Can't wait to read more.

PS: How's Bo?

Posted by: Pocklock | July 15, 2008 11:29 AM

So glad you are back! I'm sorry to hear about you and Dukay, but I'm glad you are feeling better!

Posted by: Kristen | July 15, 2008 11:31 AM

YAY!!!!! You're back!!!

In the words of Ty Pennington, "Welcome Home Miss Doxie, Welcome Home!!!"

We missed you so much!!!

How are the puppers?

Posted by: lilfootsmommy | July 15, 2008 11:33 AM

Leigh, I'm so very glad you're back. You are an outstanding person, and I'm so glad you're happy and joyous after the dark days. I am absolutely going on your journey with you and can't wait to see where it takes you!

Welcome back - we love and so missed you!!! xoxoxo

Posted by: Jessica | July 15, 2008 11:36 AM

Dude!! Just night before last I had to hit up the archives 'round here for a couple of HOURS because I was in such MD withdrawal.

Kiss Kiss Kiss Hugs Hugs Hugs

Glad you're all ok now.

Posted by: Kelliqua | July 15, 2008 11:48 AM

Can I say, "WOO!"? I hope so, because I just did. :)

Posted by: CLD | July 15, 2008 11:53 AM

Welcome back Leigh. You've been missed. Sorry for your heartache and hope it heals and your smile comes back soon.

Posted by: suzanna danna | July 15, 2008 12:00 PM

Yay, I am so glad that you are back!! I am so thankful that I kept you in my bloglines because I knew the day would come when I would see your sweet sweet words on my computer screen once again.

Posted by: Jen | July 15, 2008 12:08 PM

oh honey! I'm so sorry! But you're totally right, you should have someone who just wants to be with your fabulous self, and you're so awesome, I bet you'll have a line of someones waiting outside your door as soon as you're ready for them! :) So glad you're back, and I'm excited to hear about the new adventures - thank you for coming back!

Posted by: Baby Lawyer | July 15, 2008 12:13 PM

I am so glad to see you back! And so sorry about the reason for your absence. That just sucks.

How are the bad doxies?

Posted by: Julie | July 15, 2008 12:16 PM

Oddly I typed "missdoxie" today instead of "misszoot" for the first time in months. Glad you've returned--looking forward to your shiney new life and blog.

Posted by: Eliza | July 15, 2008 12:24 PM

Whew. Thought you fell off the face of the earth...or that Bo had finally exacted some sort of revenge. Glad to hear neither is true. Sorry about Dukay...men. 'Nuff said. But seriously, it is the dogs that make me squirt wine out my nose...not some "two legger." So, now that you're back, how 'bout an update on the "four leggers"? Huh? Please?

Posted by: hildiesmom | July 15, 2008 12:29 PM

I'm just glad you and yours are alive. Yesterday I decided that I couldn't take it anymore and was mere moments from making a creepy lurker call to your office when I finally thought better of it.

Hey, Doxie, there's not a one of us who hasn't had to start over somewhere. Good luck on your shiny new life...

Posted by: IV:XX | July 15, 2008 12:30 PM

I've been wondering where you've been. So glad that you are back!!

Posted by: Wendy | July 15, 2008 12:36 PM

Welcome to 2.0 - we're glad you found your way back to us. The Internets missed you.

Posted by: chirky | July 15, 2008 12:36 PM

I actually just cut my boss off in mid-sentence because I glanced at my RSS feed and saw that your site had updated.

I'm So! Glad! You're! Back!

Happy to hear you're doing better. Can't wait for Doxie 2.0

Posted by: Cobwebs | July 15, 2008 12:38 PM

OH MY GOD. I am SO happy to see you posting again and so sad to hear of your circumstances. I am glad you took time away to hide and figure things out though, and am very glad you decided to "redox" things up.

I've loved your site so much I even moved to Atlanta because.. well.. it had Miss Doxie! (among other things =)

Posted by: Lydia | July 15, 2008 12:41 PM

Whoa, delurking to say hi, and so glad you are back, and glad that you are ok and on the mend and can't wait to read more and... that's it I think!

Posted by: Marguerite | July 15, 2008 12:43 PM

oh hooray! you are back! (in more ways than one, it seems) I am so glad. I think you are the rare full package, and you deserve a man who is more than just funny, but is as gorgeous, good hearted, smart and entirely hillarious as you.
xoxo

Posted by: Elise | July 15, 2008 12:47 PM

Welcome back!!!

I fell off of my blog for awhile, and I'm terrified to go back. I tried once, and failed miserably because all of the suddenly I actually had stuff happening in real life, how rude, life, to interfere with my blog.

Thanks for sharing! Looking forward to reading more and seeing BO pictures!!!

Posted by: JSauce | July 15, 2008 12:52 PM

So glad to have you back!

Posted by: Janet | July 15, 2008 12:57 PM

Welcome back! I'm so relieved you're alive and feeling at least somewhat better.

I wouldn't worry, I'm pretty sure the internet will forgive you.

Posted by: kat | July 15, 2008 01:14 PM

I'm sorry about you and Dukay.

Can't wait to read about your new life.

Posted by: Pickles & Dimes | July 15, 2008 01:27 PM

Welcome back missus. Hugs and new shoes to you!

Posted by: Wen | July 15, 2008 01:28 PM

Welcome back! We're so glad to have you. :)

Posted by: chic | July 15, 2008 01:41 PM

You're back! Honestly, the internet is a lot more boring without you... So glad to hear things are back on track for you. Keep it up!

Posted by: Evie | July 15, 2008 01:44 PM

I'm in! And I'm sorry about the crap. But I'm real happy you're back and in better form than ever. Also: yes, it was prettier.

Posted by: elise | July 15, 2008 01:51 PM

Welcome back. I missed you. Glad to hear that things are better now, sorry that they weren't good for a while.

Posted by: Erin | July 15, 2008 01:53 PM

...happy you're alive, sucks about all the bad stuff. Seems to be a big ol' lovefest going on (which is obviously expected!).

I was hesitant to comment, not knowing if people really have any interest as to what others say...but felt compelled just because you were so brave to share this all. And I thought, if you took any of what is said here to heart, one more comment might be appreciated as well.

You've been missed, and I'm happy that you're on a happier road now.

best wishes
Chad

Posted by: Chad | July 15, 2008 02:02 PM

SO glad that the suckage is less sucky. You have been so very, very missed. Also, Congrats Ziz!

Posted by: Michelle | July 15, 2008 02:05 PM

Do not ever doubt that all things happen for a reason. Do NOT, I repeat, DO NOT feel that you failed. In our path of life, we meet and share time with lots of people. Your forever person is out there somewhere and you will find him when the time is right. Glad you are back !

Posted by: Barb | July 15, 2008 02:10 PM

Just want to add my happiness that you are back. And as you can read, you're not alone.

Posted by: Jackie | July 15, 2008 02:14 PM

Will follow you to Doxie 2.0 and beyond!
Hugs, to you.

Posted by: Meemers | July 15, 2008 02:21 PM

I am so glad you're back (and so glad I have an RSS feed). Sorry things sucked, but so glad they're better now.

How are the monsters....err, I mean dogs? That's what we really want to know.

Posted by: Amy | July 15, 2008 02:34 PM

I do not have a RSS feed, but I do have a friend who called me a few minutes ago, and told me that there was a new Miss Doxie post. I was so excited, I quickly dropped the actual work I was doing, and pulled up this site.
I am sorry for what you went through, and as my nearest and dearest lesbian friend would say "Boys are dumb and stupid." Pretty much her response to anything male related.
However, I am very happy you have returned to the interwebs. I hope that the response you get from the people here makes you feel loved and wanted, and not in an icky way.
Now to the important part, puppies? where are the puppies? are they doing ok? Bo? Bo mad at Dukay? Bo eat Dukay?

Posted by: Kelly | July 15, 2008 03:00 PM

Miss Leigh, it is nice to see you writing again! I'm looking forward to v2.0. Take care and welcome back!

Posted by: Sarah | July 15, 2008 03:09 PM

welcome back doxie! glad to hear you're doing okay now and can't wait to hear what doxie 2.0 has to say :)

Posted by: katelin | July 15, 2008 03:12 PM

I haven't had the time (ability?) to read all the comments, so I can't say "me too", but glad to have you back--I need funny, cool lawyers because all the old ones have bored me to death.

Posted by: New Blue Shoe | July 15, 2008 03:15 PM

So glad you're back!!

So sorry this year has been so hard for you.

Also: VERY glad your post didn't start with the news that your dad had died, because I was afraid that was what had happened.

Posted by: Jenny Ryan | July 15, 2008 03:16 PM

Dude, I had to delete my MySpace, FaceBook and all other twitters and yitters when had a breakup. At least we have our blogs.

Posted by: Duck | July 15, 2008 03:41 PM

I'm so glad you're back from Craptown. You were missed.

Posted by: Gypsy | July 15, 2008 03:42 PM

I'm glad you're back.

Even if you ARE a lot funnier than I'll ever be.

Posted by: Poppy Buxom | July 15, 2008 03:49 PM

So glad you are back. So sorry it sucked. Can't wait to hear all of your new, improved adventures.

Posted by: LizPres | July 15, 2008 03:53 PM

You have been sorely missed. Bring on Doxie 2.0!!

Posted by: whoorl | July 15, 2008 04:03 PM

Spooky, this, seeing how I had stuck my head into the comment section about a week ago to see what the chat was about where you had gone. And then I shuddered and ran away- but now you are back. Hurray!

As one who is embarking on her own very recent 2.0 after a major disappointment, I can say that it's good to know that out the suckiness, there can be shiny things. Count me in for the ride.

Posted by: B. Mare | July 15, 2008 04:05 PM

I'm SO sorry to hear that. My six year relationship just split up in March and it was hard to even put one foot in front of the other for awhile - especially when moving that foot meant moving out of the house and leaving my dog and, oh, I'm going to start crying again. But:

"I finally realized that what I wanted -- more than anything -- was someone who just wanted me."

I HEAR YOU, SISTER. I'm so glad things are better for you (they are for me as well) - and they'll just keep getting better.

Posted by: Moose | July 15, 2008 04:09 PM

Welcome back! I hope it doesn't sound selfish, considering the subject matter, but it did brighten my day immeasurably to see a new post from you. :) You were one of the first blogs I ever bookmarked and have always been my favorite!Life certainly has a way of sucking sometimes, but I have faith that you'll pull through. Don't ever worry about letting "us" down...you have to take care of "YOU" first!!

Posted by: Marcia | July 15, 2008 04:21 PM

Welcome back! And I'm sorry about your breakup with Dukay (been there and done that, in my case it was four years), but to echo what others have said, please don't consider it a failure... more like a way of refining your "must haves" when it comes to relationships.

Posted by: Sunkitten | July 15, 2008 04:21 PM

Good Lord, i almost had a heart attack when I saw that you had a new post. I'm so glad you are back, I'm sorry for what you had to go through, and I can't wait to experience Doxie 2.0.

Posted by: carolyn | July 15, 2008 04:30 PM

Failure? FAILURE?! How could you ever say you were a failure? Beautiful, smart, whip-cracking sharp wit? You're so perfect that you truly are one of those people I wish I could hate, but totally love and I don't even KNOW you!

You loved someone and gave your whole self to him and, fabulous best friendy-ness aside (and you will get over THAT) you trusted him. He lives on this planet, is not, you've led us to believe, inflicted with any mind-disabling issues. He had to know you had good reasons to be making plans. So, while I'm sure in the grand scheme of the universe that he is not wholly evil, you deserve better.

P.S. I also would have to look up ukulele. In fact, just checked against your spelling and damn good thing I did.

P.P.S. Huzzah Ziz! Also you for having such a clear heart to celebrate like a good sister.

Posted by: Minda | July 15, 2008 04:44 PM

JUMPING UP AND DOWN! SHE'S BACK! SHE'S BACK! YAY! YAY! Oh, wait, she had a really terrible 8 months. Ok, a little decorum here...

Miss Doxie, I'm so sorry you had to walk through hell to get to where you are today, but I'm so glad you're back. I hope you are feeling better with every sunrise and I hope this note finds you to be healthy. How are the doggies? I've missed them, too.

(Going back to jubiliant mode now...)

JUMPING UP AND DOWN! SHE'S BACK! YAY! YAY!

Posted by: TamiW | July 15, 2008 04:51 PM

Hey Doxie, I've never commented before, but have been reading your blog for a few years so I have broken my silence to say yay for you being back. I'm sorry to hear your news, and completely get that you couldn't post for so long. It's good to know you're doing better now, and I look forward to hearing about the evil Bo's been up to over these past few months!

Posted by: Lucinda | July 15, 2008 04:52 PM

I'm so glad you are back. It is something I think we all have to go through at least once as an adult-that kind of soul crushing heartbreak. It seems you learned something very good about yourself though-even when the decision is hard, you do the right thing for yourself. You are wise, young grasshopper!

You rock and I can't wait to hear about all of the new insane things you will be getting into!


Posted by: Jenjipea | July 15, 2008 04:58 PM

I'm so glad you are back. It is something I think we all have to go through at least once as an adult-that kind of soul crushing heartbreak. It seems you learned something very good about yourself though-even when the decision is hard, you do the right thing for yourself. You are wise, young grasshopper!

You rock and I can't wait to hear about all of the new insane things you will be getting into!


Posted by: Jenjipea | July 15, 2008 04:58 PM

I'm so glad that you are back! Sorry about your break up, but it's going to be exciting to see where things go from here.

Posted by: Amanda | July 15, 2008 04:59 PM

Let me just join the masses and tell you how much I've missed you. I'm so glad that you are feeling better and overjoyed that you're back to blogging. Hugs to you!!!

Posted by: aj | July 15, 2008 05:03 PM

Ending a relationship that isn't working is SO not a failure. You've already figured that out though, smart girl! I can just imagine the awesomeness in your future. AWE-SOME-NESS, I tell you. Thanks for the update. How are the DOGS though?

Posted by: melinda | July 15, 2008 05:14 PM

Miss Doxie is back! Girl, we have MISSED YOU!!!! I haven't even visited this site in months, I was so sad. Today, something nudged me to go check, and I'm glad I did. I'm sorry about the bad things that went down, but I'm glad you're starting over again, and glad you've got a new outlook on life. We love you, and don't be gone like that again!!

Posted by: Jami | July 15, 2008 05:47 PM

WELCOME BACK MISS DOXIE!!! Cliche?
The future is so bright, you'd better wear shades!

Posted by: Jay | July 15, 2008 05:52 PM

HOLYCRAPFORALLTHATISGOODANDHOLY.. YAY! You just made my WHOLE day that you're back! Yippee!

Also, so sorry about the broken heart but that's WAY better than I thought, which was something w/ your dad so phew.. but still, yucky and sending hugs and wine and a pony and all that. I'm so looking forward to new posts and new stories.. Can.Not.Wait! Hang in there girl.. xoxox

Posted by: Miss Devylish | July 15, 2008 05:55 PM

YAY!

Posted by: Alyssa | July 15, 2008 06:01 PM

So sorry to hear about the last few months; but it is good to have you back.

My wife and I are moving to yer neck of the woods (I'll be teaching music theory and composition at a local college that rhymes with Bayton Bate Byooniversity), and we come armed with a dachshund as well. Perhaps we will run into each other at the local dog parks.

WF

Posted by: Wes F. in Cincinnati | July 15, 2008 06:07 PM

Welcome back Miss Doxie v2.0!

Posted by: leah | July 15, 2008 06:58 PM

Well Shit that just SUCKS!

You do sound 'on the mend'..........so happy you are back!!!

How are the Doxies by the way?

Missed you!

jp

Posted by: jp | July 15, 2008 07:09 PM

The internet missed you!

Welcome back. :)

Posted by: kate | July 15, 2008 07:27 PM

glad you're back. i found this blog the exact day of your last post, and immediately RSSed it and ate your archives, then missed you even though we'd only just (never) met, so pure was my love for your delightful sentence structure. did that sound like i was kidding? not kidding.
i couldn't bear to remove you from my RSS reader even as your name turned orange from disuse, like an old newspaper. and now, a bright new future dawns, so let's look forward, comrade. by which i mean that i'll sit over here, and you can make me laugh some more.

Posted by: stamperoo | July 15, 2008 07:29 PM

We missed you. Welcome back. Glad to hear that you're (now) okay.

Posted by: night swimming | July 15, 2008 07:38 PM

Today was my first day reading your blog. And although on anyone elses I would read more than one entry on this one I am going to stop. I want to know Doxie 2.0 and that's all. Looking forward to hearing about your journey.

Posted by: M in SF | July 15, 2008 07:59 PM

I am so glad to have you back!Missed your honest and funny spirit.

Posted by: Lianna Johnson | July 15, 2008 08:00 PM

Hi, Leigh! I have missed you so much. I am sorry to hear about ... things ... but you know what? What doesn't kill us and all that. I'm sure you felt like it was *going* to kill you, but now you know just how strong you are. (Gawd, that was cheesy. But heartfelt, I promise.) Good luck on 2.0 - we're here for you. :)

Posted by: Tracy from Texas | July 15, 2008 08:45 PM

I keep rewriting this comment because I keep thinking I have wise things to say but then I think they all sound stupid so I erase them.

I'll just keep it to this: Hurray! You're back! I'm so, SO glad because I LOVE this site.

I also want to say that some of your readers offered some great websites in the comments section of that last post in December for us to read whilst we waited for your return and there were some real gems that are now part of my regular reading...so that was pretty cool.

And last, congratulations to your sis. I hope we all are lucky to find someone like that one day.

And now I should stop because I'm starting to get in to that "I'm so wise, let me just say this" crap that I was trying to start this comment with.

Oh, and last last, I can't wait to see more Bo posts again.

Posted by: Serenity | July 15, 2008 08:49 PM

I am so glad you updated. I lost my dad in January and every time I visited I thought maybe things went downhill with your dad as well. I am sorry to hear about El Dukay but am happy that it was not a death that caused your lack of posts. I know I did nothing for a while and even stopped my photography after I lost my dad. It's good to have you back. As a fellow doxie owner, I have missed your stories. I just love those little guys! Planet Unicorn provided much entertainment during my sad times so I thank you for that as well. I didn't think this would be such a long post but wanted to let you know that even though this is only an internet connection you have brought much joy and comfort that I can not even describe. Here's hoping for a great future!

Internet Love, Wendy

Posted by: Wendy | July 15, 2008 08:52 PM

Ugh. Sorry for all the crap. I just had a flashback of my own late twenties. Hold out for the one who treats you like a princess. And who likes dachshunds, of course (mine came around, but I tricked him with a Golden Retriever, first...). Can't wait to hear more about what has to be a new, fabu life. Frieda and Winifred would like mo Bo...

Posted by: Lynnette | July 15, 2008 08:57 PM

Yay! I'm glad you posted, because looking at this volume of comments here, do you see what I meant? Honestly. "Where is Miss Doxie?" was getting my site Googled several times a day. (Shit, maybe you shouldn't have posted. Kidding.)

Anyway. You have been much missed, as you see. And your frankness is awesome and admirable. You got guts, and also are still very funny.

Oh, and get AB to fix your site. If she's too busy, Sean Slinsky who designed my website could hook you up. I don't know a drop of code, and I manage to even: Edit files! and stuff.

Posted by: Gretchen | July 15, 2008 08:58 PM

Yay! So glad to log onto my reader today and see you'd posted! Here's to Doxie2.0!!

Posted by: Zee | July 15, 2008 08:59 PM

So...after that last comment, I did as you requested and got an adult beverage, in your honor, and read through the comments. I'm glad I didn't try my "wise" sayings crap because you're other readers did a much better job than I would have.

Did, however, immediately email someone to let them know you are back, such was my giddiness.

And to echo some others, I thought maybe something happened to your dad and am very, VERY glad that it didn't.

I, too, look forward to the new and improved Miss Doxie. You are very loved by so many.

Posted by: Serenity | July 15, 2008 09:05 PM

Oh, and I should point out that you really didn't owe the Internet an explanation. (Just when most people stop blogging, no one much cares; but you are not most people.)

Posted by: Gretchen | July 15, 2008 09:22 PM

Thanks for coming back to us. We love you.

Posted by: lisa | July 15, 2008 09:38 PM

I think there are a lot of us who want to come along. And it's not failure...you are not a failure. It's just what happens sometimes in this crazy life business.

Posted by: Kim | July 15, 2008 09:47 PM

Yaaaaaay!! You are back! Oh Happy Day! You have made my Tuesday, lady!

My sympathies on your breakup. That just...sucks. I can't think of anything eloquent and heartwarming to say here, so...um...I won't. But I'm really glad you are feeling better and are back up and at em, slugger!

(That cliche just slid right on in there, sorry about that :)

Looking forward to reading you again!

Posted by: gabrielle | July 15, 2008 09:53 PM

Hoooooray! Welcome back!

Sorry to hear about your troubles - it blows. Boy, does it blow.

But on to bigger and better!

So now.....how are your four legged babies?

Posted by: Floyd | July 15, 2008 09:59 PM

oh my god! Who hasn't been there? I'm so glad you're back and I hope you continue to feel better and better. That's the way the cookie crumbles!

Posted by: peanut | July 15, 2008 10:01 PM

I'm glad your life is back together. I know how hard it is to let someone out of your life. I'm happy that you're happy now :D

Edited by MD - J, sent you an email!

Posted by: J | July 15, 2008 10:04 PM

Oh my! What a fan base you have, Miss D. One Hundred Ninety two comments already. And all wishing you nothing but the best.
We love you! We really love you!
:-)

Posted by: deb | July 15, 2008 10:10 PM

I'm glad you're back - I'm sorry about el dukay; that sort of realization hurts.

Posted by: T | July 15, 2008 10:43 PM

Welcome Back!

Posted by: Kate | July 15, 2008 10:44 PM

I'm so sorry to hear about the break-up. I'm glad you're feeling better, and so glad you're back!

Posted by: Charlotte | July 15, 2008 11:26 PM

Delurking to do the virtual Snoopy Dance of joy at your return!

I will admit that I have closed the window, then reopened it about half a dozen times, just for the sheer joy of seeing a new post.

So glad you are back. Can't wait for more stories of the minions. I am also owned by evil dachshunds, and your tales make me snort and pee a little (often at the same time)

I've never actually stalked anyone ... okay, one time, but we won't discuss that ... but I really wished I had the guts to find you, just so I could know where you went. Glad I didn't give in to the urge to go all creepy.

You were so very missed, and it hurts my heart that you felt you would disappoint readers in any way.

Posted by: K | July 15, 2008 11:33 PM

omg we were just talking about you at work last night and postulating on where you've been and how much we missed you, and then I see you updated. I'm so sorry to hear about how rough everything has been, this year has been a horrible year all around for all I think. I just wish it could end or rewind all the way back and let me do things differently.

Posted by: nursie | July 15, 2008 11:48 PM

Leigh,

So glad to see you back and sorry for the suckiness you've had to endure. But I know this for sure - your complete and indestructible awesomeness will attract a great guy who just wants you. And you don't owe us anything. We just want you to be happy.

Posted by: Matt | July 15, 2008 11:52 PM

Life's a bitch and then you die. Sounds like you are making the best of things now. Your wit, wisdom and dog stories have been sorely missed. I actually read the dog stories out loud to my two evil dachshunds - they have been especially unkind since the news of their distant cousins has been cut off.

Welcome back.

Posted by: Rich | July 15, 2008 11:53 PM

Welcome back, Miss D! Tonight my husband was nagging me saying "check Miss Doxie!" and I said "oh, no, there's no new Miss Doxie," and he said "maybe there is, just check!" So, we were both thrilled to see you back, but sorry you went through hard times.

We are looking forward to hearing more about the pups - I had been worried that Bo had left this realm, and was up in doggie heaven ordering around cocker spaniels and such.

Posted by: Bluebell | July 16, 2008 12:15 AM

Yay! So glad to see you're okay (and getting better every day). You were, indeed, greatly missed.

Posted by: Carol | July 16, 2008 01:06 AM

Wouldn't it be easier if EVERYTHING about the relationship was bad? Instead of it being mostly awesome, except for one insurmountable sticky point? Le sigh...I'm sorry for the suckage you've had to go through.


And another thing. You make us (your readers) laugh, but you don't owe us any laughter. And you fill our little hearts with glee when you update, but you don't owe us any updates. So any guilt on your part about not updating, or writing about a sad event....well, that's just silly. We love you and your writing in every form; that's why we're all so obsessed. :c)

Take care of yourself! And thank Baby-Jesus-in-a-sombrero that you have such awesome friends and family. :c)

Posted by: Cassiopeia | July 16, 2008 01:24 AM

Hello Leigh! Seeing your post brightened my day considerably!
I am so sorry for all that you've been through, but as others have said you don't owe us an apology or a damn thing. Your life isn't only lived for our vicarious nosiness!
My heart is aching for you. You've made it this far though, moving onward through the pain and finding the sunshine that is still surrounding you.
I have two sayings for you that have stood me in good stead through the years, of which I have many now (um, years, not sayings)...
From Fried Green Tomatoes: Towanda!!! ( I yell that one a LOT!)
And from someplace else: Onward through the fog!
Bless you for coming back. We've missed you!
Big Texas Hugs!!!
Blabsalot aka Babs

Posted by: blabsalot | July 16, 2008 01:48 AM

p.s. Congrats to Ziz!!!

How are the pups?


:) Blabsalot

Posted by: blabsalot | July 16, 2008 01:49 AM

Long time reader, possibly first time commenter. I hope the Internets are being nice and supportive and all that anarchy business is gone. Because really, except for the creepy child molesters and porn addicts, the Internet is a pretty classy place. Glad you're back.

xox

Posted by: heidikins | July 16, 2008 04:47 AM

Zounds! To see a new Doxie post....well! I could just die happy now. But still, glad you're back from the dire Land O' That Which Totally Bites and ready for version 2.0. In one way or another, we have all been there. You owe no explainations or apologies.....BUT an update on the Bad Wieners would be sooooooo appreciated. Hang in there and keep smiling. And blogging. Please.

Posted by: Sharon | July 16, 2008 05:00 AM

Sending hugs and lots of wine your way. Also, congrats to Ziz!

Posted by: Tripping Daisy | July 16, 2008 05:43 AM

The only words of wisdom I can offer are to follow Buzz Lightyear's advice: 'To infinity and beyond!' Hope each day gets better and better. Thrilled you are back to entertain my friends and I all the way away in Cape Town, South Africa.

Posted by: Cath | July 16, 2008 08:06 AM

Welcome back. You were certainly missed by all!

Posted by: Rachel | July 16, 2008 08:14 AM

So glad to have you back on the Internet. And thanks for being so honest - I can relate with some of it myself. it takes a lot of guts to share this much information with everyone, but the up-side of this is that the more we share, the greater the rewards in the end. Of course, with that, also comes greater pain, but hopefully the rewards will outweigh the hurts.

Good to hear that you are doing awesome -- can't wait to hear more of your adventures!

Posted by: Angela | July 16, 2008 08:33 AM

First of all: hugs and wine and lots of doxie kisses to you.
Secondly: congrats to Ziz!
Last (but in no way least): Yay, Miss Doxie is back!!!

I'm so glad you're writing again. I've been thinking about you and worrying and hoping that everything was okay.

Posted by: Kate | July 16, 2008 09:02 AM

So glad you are back. I can't wait to hear all about Doxie 2.0 new and improved. And I need some drunk shopping posts stat!

Posted by: Jenn | July 16, 2008 09:41 AM

OMG, I can't believe it! For a long time I checked you every day, several times. I needed my Miss Doxie! Then you disappeared from blog rolls, and I almost gave up...but I still checked at least once a week. I very nearly called you at work! But no matter, now, YOU ARE BACK! Life can go on!

Better to break up with old whatsisname now than after dragging him kicking into a marriage and producing several small dukettes. Now will we get blow-by-blow descriptions of all your new dates? Oh god, I am so happy you're back!

Posted by: Syko | July 16, 2008 09:51 AM

So sorry to hear about your heartache and rough months, and I hope you are OK.

Posted by: Editrix | July 16, 2008 10:10 AM

Ah, you poor auld yoke (as they say over here, honestly), I'm really sorry to hear that things were so rough for a while. Breakups are horrible, even if they are entirely the right thing to do, and I'm not surprised you needed to take some time off - putting yourself back together again after something like that can take a lot of energy (and Smiths songs). And like everyone else, I don't feel you owe me an apology for not taking some of that energy to amuse random people on the internet!

But I'm delighted that you're back and I'm looking forward to reading more posts.

Posted by: Lisa | July 16, 2008 10:49 AM

I'm glad that you are feeling better. Don't worry - it's YOU that the Internets wants to know about. (Possibly also Bo, a little.) Welcome back.

Posted by: Jane | July 16, 2008 11:08 AM

I am a new reader to your blog and I LOVE it. I hope things are better for you (I can totally relate and feel a blog post coming on to tell my story...). Take care and I look forward to reading more about your fabulous life. :)

Posted by: Gotham Girl | July 16, 2008 11:30 AM

Yay! I am so glad there is more Miss Doxie to come...can't wait to read all about it. ;)

Posted by: rosalicious | July 16, 2008 11:31 AM

welcome back! i'm excited to read about the brand new you. glad you made it through the fire...

Posted by: margaux | July 16, 2008 12:03 PM

Glad to see you back - I have certainly missed your humor and all the dog tales (heh). Looking forward to Doxie 2.0!

Posted by: Lesley | July 16, 2008 12:14 PM

Doxie, thank you SO much for writing this post. I've been reading your blog for quite some time now and although I was afraid you might have given up on the blogging world, I kept you in my reader and checked your site every now and then. I just went through a really really tough breakup too, about two weeks ago (so the wounds are still incredibly fresh)... it was comforting to read your post and know that there is a light at the end of the tunnel. If someone as smart and funny as you can get through it, I can too. I feel for you, things like this are some of the hardest parts of life. Thanks again, your post brought me some hope.

Posted by: Katharine | July 16, 2008 01:24 PM

I'm sorry you had to go through that but am glad you're doing better, and that you're back, I was a little concerned about you. I can't wait for the next installment of Bad Bo! Dukay who??

Posted by: lesli | July 16, 2008 01:26 PM

So, who's the internet's bitch now? Not you!

Glad to see your return, and sorry about the "situation" . If she has not already given you the advice, you must speak to Mrs. Hate Your Daddy Alison about her Dead To Me philosophy. Trust, that shit works.

Posted by: Dawn | July 16, 2008 01:53 PM

Doxie
You were missed! And I am sorry for your 'situation' and you are right to want someone who just wants you. It is the best.thing.ever and you 1000000% deserve that and more.

Glad to have you back, I am buckled in and along for the ride.

PS - what about the dogs?

Posted by: Diane | July 16, 2008 02:32 PM

Miss Doxie, you were seriously MISSED!

(puts arm around Miss Doxie) nice Miss Doxie, pretty Miss Doxie, he didn't deserve you... Here, you have a nice stiff drink. (pours homemade margarita with extra shot of tequila)

Wishing you the best, dear sweet funny girl.

Posted by: Martha Jean | July 16, 2008 02:49 PM

Miss Doxie, you were seriously MISSED!

(puts arm around Miss Doxie) nice Miss Doxie, pretty Miss Doxie, he didn't deserve you... Here, you have a nice stiff drink. (pours homemade margarita with extra shot of tequila)

Wishing you the best, dear sweet funny girl.

Posted by: Martha Jean | July 16, 2008 02:49 PM

*hugs*
Sorry.

Glad you're feeling better. Keep on feeling better. Write what you want! Sending you love n good stuff!

Posted by: Victoria | July 16, 2008 02:56 PM

So glad to see that you're back and that everyone is OK!

Please don't feel bad about sharing your failures. I realize that's easy to say when it's not my failures spread open for the whole internet to see. But understand that every single one of us has had failures and disappointments in life and if we don't learn from them and move on, then what are we here for?! It's hard when things don't go as we'd planned and hoped in our life, but it's certainly something everyone can relate to. Anyone who gives you hard time about it or makes you feel like less of a person because of it is completely full of crap. I haven't read all the comments because holy cow! 226! And they're for you anyway. I'm hoping they're all good and positive and uplifitng for you. Or at least no more sinister than something about bank assets in a war torn African nation that you can help to release. :)

Glad you're back and hoping to hear more crazy stories that leave me peeing in my chair at work. You were in my prayers that all was OK for you...glad to hear you've come to the other side of it.

Posted by: Christine | July 16, 2008 03:02 PM

Ah, Miss Doxie, I am so sorry to hear that. You know you will be fine, but it's very, very hard. I'm glad you're back. Big hugs to you.

Posted by: Lisa | July 16, 2008 03:42 PM

Dear MissDoxie - I love you. That is all.

Posted by: Linda260 | July 16, 2008 03:43 PM

I can't believe 230 people said hi before I did!

Oh well. :D I'm so glad you're back! I missed you.

Posted by: Rachael | July 16, 2008 03:48 PM

Aw, gee, so glad you're back and doing okay. And that anarchy in the previous post, it weren't so bad. We just missed you and needed to moan some.

Posted by: janeygirl | July 16, 2008 03:49 PM

Wow, if you wondered if you'd lost your fan club, I'd say you've got your answer...
I think you're wonderful - good luck on everything!

Posted by: Chryseis | July 16, 2008 04:09 PM

Thank God you're not dead. Nearly seven years hanging out with a cool guy? That is not failure, kid.

I'm not one of your quote-unqoute friends (I don't know why that sounds sort of rude ... bygones) but I lurve your postings. You're dang funny, girl. And, this is strictly selfish of me, but now we get to hear about dating mis-adventures.

(I really am just trying to make you feel better.) Glad to have you back. Cheers to Ziz too.

Posted by: SKT | July 16, 2008 04:12 PM

We love you Miss Doxie! So sorry things went awry. But I am so happy to see that you are back, and doing better - and congrats to Ziz.

Posted by: Liz | July 16, 2008 04:27 PM

We love you Miss Doxie! So sorry things went awry. But I am so happy to see that you are back, and doing better - and congrats to Ziz.

Posted by: Liz | July 16, 2008 04:28 PM

I'm not going to do that thing where I tell you that I've been there and I know what you're going through and wine and Morrissey help, la la la, but I have sort of been where you are and do not envy the crap you've dealt with one bit. Congrats to moving onward and upward.

Posted by: Christina | July 16, 2008 04:43 PM

Miss Doxie, I am so sorry to hear that things have been rough - but so glad that you're better. You have brought so much happiness (and coffee snarfed into the keyboard) for so many - you deserve all the happiness in the world yourself. I can't wait to see what happens next!

Posted by: Liz | July 16, 2008 04:48 PM

Oh my gosh we're so glad you're back! I'm sorry about your trip to the pit of despair but so glad that you are coming out better and happier. I know how hard it is! But thanks for coming back...you're hilare. Can't wait to discover Doxie 2.0!

Posted by: jamie | July 16, 2008 05:26 PM

Thank goodness you are okay. I have been so sad without my intermittent doses of Doxie.

All the best affection to you Ms. D. (and the puppies).

Take care and keep us posted. I know for sure that there is a brilliant lunatic out there who is just longing to meet you and treat you like the incredible gem you are!

Posted by: Gayle Miller | July 16, 2008 05:31 PM

Wow, so glad you are back. I definitely can sympathize with your last 6 months or so. But I'm glad you are doing better!

Posted by: Lori | July 16, 2008 05:57 PM

Miss Doxie -
Hooray you are back! So very sorry to hear about El Dukay being an, er, uh . . . el dukay? That? SUCKS.

I was worried that maybe something bad had happened health-wise to a family member of yours, so while I am very sad that you have been sad, I am also glad that everyone is still breathing.

I also wondered if a giant legal brief had kidnapped you and held you at gunpoint for ransom. I pictured insane lawyers from all over Hotlanta, running around and negotiating for your return. Can you imagine a big stack of papers holding you against your will whilst wielding a gun? I figured it was a very angry brief.

You keep your chin up! You're obviously going to be just fine. SO GLAD YOU ARE BACK.

Posted by: DGs World By Big D | July 16, 2008 06:11 PM

Hi! I am sure you will never get down this far in the comments list, but, I sympathize with the awfulness of breakup, I am ever so glad you are feeling better now, and I am looking forward to reading whatever stories you want to share with us. Because you are awesome. =)

Posted by: Amanda Hope | July 16, 2008 06:23 PM

Okay you probably will not see this because there are over 200 comments but I'll say it anyway.

I can't convey all I want to just by saying "welcome back" because it's so much more than that.

I totally understand you not being read to share your pain and your life with the world. I cried a little for you, because despite things working out for the best, endings are always painful.

But what I'm sorriest about is the part where it sounds like you feel you owe us anything. That somehow you arranging your life in the way you need to, or going through things that HAPPEN, would "disappoint" us. You... shouldn't have to worry about that. I guess I can't speak for everyone, but I don't come here expecting a particular "experience." You are always funny. You are always interesting. You are always you. It isn't about readers expecting some soap opera where our favorite "characters" are not allowed to change or grow or break up or we get upset; it's about you being a talented writer, and writing about your life, or your friends, or your thoughts, or whatever you feel like writing about in some way that makes us understand, and nod along, and laugh and just generally enjoy your virtual company.

Yes you have talked about Dukay a lot, and in that sense he has been a big part of the site. But you are still you. You will still be a funny, wonderful, klutzy, dog loving person who is a good writer. The status of your site is no different than, as you have probably been painfully coming to terms with over the past months, the status of your life. Yes, Dukay was a big part of your life/site. But now he is not, and you are still you. You are no worse, or less worthy, without him. It breaks my heart a little to think you felt like you owed your readers the "life you put in front of us", or that you're a failure or a disappointment bringing us down and ruining our day. Don't ever think that. You are lovely. You come here and be yourself - we come here because you're someone we can relate to. You'd never disappoint us by just being honest.

And really, that's what I mean by "welcome back." So welcome back. I'm sorry you were bad; I'm glad you are better. I'm looking forward to your shiny new journey, and I'm equally honored to come along.

Posted by: McKate | July 16, 2008 06:32 PM

I'm sorry to hear about the badness, happy to hear you're doing better and currently wagging my tail harder than a thousand weiner dogs in unison. Welcome back to the Interweb.

Posted by: dangerous k | July 16, 2008 07:41 PM

I was so glad to see you pop up in my reader! I couldn't believe it! Then I was so sorry to hear about you and Dukay but I'm glad you have come to terms with it. I can totally understand not feeling up to posting about it. But never feel as if you were in any way a failure. Things sometimes don't work out. You and Dukay talked it out and decided to do what was best. No failure there!

And I'm so glad for Ziz and her honey. You too will find the right one, at the right time; and I'm sure you'll know it when you do! In the meantime, I am greatly looking forward to reading all about your adventures as Doxie 2.0.

Posted by: Mauigirl | July 16, 2008 07:44 PM

Welcome back!

I, too, am sorry to hear about the suckiness. My cliche is that is better to have loved and lost than not to have loved at all.

Can't wait to hear about all the dates, and how the evil dogs are doing..

Posted by: The Queen | July 16, 2008 07:58 PM

Yeah....what everyone else said!

Posted by: Anne Prince | July 16, 2008 08:08 PM

Welcome back, sweetie. I mean this is in a totally non-creepy way (considering we don't know each other and never will) when I say I've thought of you and hoped you were ok. It really sucks what you've gone through but never forget you give us something for free and really don't owe us anything. I am grateful for the times when my day was so bad I didn't know how I would make it until bedtime only to find a new entry by you that had me crying I was laughing so hard. Thanks for what you share with us and never apologize for what you need to keep to yourself, for a while or forever.

Posted by: Laurie | July 16, 2008 08:18 PM

Welcome back, sweetie. I mean this is in a totally non-creepy way (considering we don't know each other and never will) when I say I've thought of you and hoped you were ok. It really sucks what you've gone through but never forget you give us something for free and really don't owe us anything. I am grateful for the times when my day was so bad I didn't know how I would make it until bedtime only to find a new entry by you that had me crying I was laughing so hard. Thanks for what you share with us and never apologize for what you need to keep to yourself, for a while or forever.

Posted by: Laurie | July 16, 2008 08:18 PM

Aw, Miss Pretty Leigh. I have been thinking of you and I am glad you are okay even if You Went Through Some Shit.

You still smell like roses on the other side, lovely lady.

This was a brave and honest post. Good on ya.

Posted by: Em | July 16, 2008 09:02 PM

Welcome back, Miss Doxie. I'm so sorry you've had such a rough go of it. You've been very missed and I'm glad you're back! Take care.

Posted by: goznot | July 16, 2008 10:58 PM

Doxie - You are the shiz-nit. Happy for Ziz, sad for you. So, so, SO glad you are back. In following with the cliche theme... Remember, there are beaucoup de poissons en mer and cliches sound so much better in French. You deserve to be loved for the love you give - kudos to you for being brave and smart enough to know that.

Posted by: Khrestin | July 16, 2008 11:10 PM

Welcome back, I couldn't have been more excited when I saw your name pop up in my reader. Sorry to hear about you and Dukay but you really really don't need to be worried about what you post here. We are all just really glad to have you back.

Posted by: Loth | July 17, 2008 07:21 AM

McKate, (10th post up) you summed it up beautifully! Very well said.

Posted by: deb | July 17, 2008 07:23 AM

Welcome back!

You are a very strong woman and you can do anything! :)

Love,
BlackLion

Posted by: BlackLion | July 17, 2008 08:07 AM

Dear Doxie,

Keep your chin up! (I can do trite too!)

Did you ever know you had so many friends! 256 comment entries!

Mary

Posted by: Mary | July 17, 2008 08:45 AM

Dear Doxie,

Keep your chin up! (I can do trite too!)

Did you ever know you had so many friends! 256 comment entries!

Mary

Posted by: Mary | July 17, 2008 08:45 AM

I'm in!

Let's do it!

You write, I read.

Go on, girl. Get blogging on the new fabulous blogginess!

Posted by: Jozet at Halushki | July 17, 2008 09:01 AM

I have 26 blogs that open at one click but every time I click I get the "are you sure you want to open these all, cause you'll have to wait through menopause if you do" warning. Yet I never removed yours, just checked it every day. You're awesome. Totally worth making a long term commitment to. Sorry you and Mr. Not (No How No Way) In Your League (hey, he said so) weren't at the same place at the same time. Glad you're back! Looking forward to reading more!

Posted by: Jen | July 17, 2008 09:11 AM

You're back!! Yay for us!

So sorry you had to go through all that, I totally understand not wanting to talk about it to the whole world.

So....how's Bo, gettin any virgins lately?

Posted by: Jenny | July 17, 2008 09:51 AM

Congrats on being back and on slugging through everything with Dukay - and look how much the internet loves you!

Happy to have you back!

Posted by: Kyla Bea | July 17, 2008 09:55 AM

Welcome back! Boy we sure have missed you! Take your time - we're all still here!!

Posted by: Dree | July 17, 2008 10:29 AM

Gah-I found your site approximately two weeks before the December post and having been checking for updates ever since (of course I read the archives 'cause you are funny as all get-out). Needless to say, I am thrilled with your return and happy you made it to the other side of a horrible time. Congratulations on v2.0.

Posted by: Lea | July 17, 2008 10:54 AM

Welcome back! What a pleasant surpise to see you back. Don't know why I checked your blog, but am glad I did. You are well loved by the internet world as well as the people fortunate enough to really know you (me). You are beautiful, smart, funny and no one can change that. Love, Aunt Rie

Posted by: Aunt Rie | July 17, 2008 10:57 AM

Miss Doxie,
This is the first time reading your blog. Looked over some old blogs and photo - GIRL, thank God he is outta yer life! You are too gorgeous for him! You know when you see a couple and wonder "why is she with him"? Well, that is totally what I think of you guys. You will do better GUARANTEED!!!! Good luck in this new chapter of your life, and remember, everything happens for a reason. Look forward to the new Mis Doxie 2.0!

Posted by: Marsbar | July 17, 2008 11:03 AM

*hug*

Posted by: Joanne Richardson | July 17, 2008 11:48 AM

Welcome Back! We'll still here, and we will be in the future. Lean on us if youse need to. Don't be scared.

Posted by: Stacie | July 17, 2008 12:43 PM

Hey there, so glad to see you are back. You always make me laugh. I was hoping you were gone because you are writing a book.

I am kinda going through the same thing now, except I am just a week out. Sob. I like the comment about running a race you don't want to win. You have given me some hope that things will turn out ok. So glad to see you are back...

Posted by: Mel | July 17, 2008 01:56 PM

Your conspicuous absence from the blogosphere was painfully endured.

Welcome back, sister.

cp

Posted by: Cheryl | July 17, 2008 02:28 PM

SO good to have you back. I would just like to say that if that silly man did not fully appreciate your obvious charm then he is nowhere near worthy! Luckily the Internet appreciates you plenty. Welcome back!!! Bring on Doxie 2.0!

Posted by: datingatforty | July 17, 2008 03:26 PM

Welcome Back! I've been reading your archives and up until today didn't realize you went away for so long. So sad to hear about the break-up, but "everything happens for a reason" (to keep with your 'cliche for the day' theme). You will have PLENTY to write about when you go on horrible first dates (again)and the ridiculous 'dance' you need to do in Dating Hell.(been there).

Hang in there girlfriend. Everyday DOES get better.

Hugs

Posted by: Squirrel | July 17, 2008 03:52 PM

YAY!!! you have been missed. i haven't laughed once since your internet slash dukay problems began and i am once again looking forward to brilliantly witty and gut splitting laughter-inducing posts!

Posted by: kat | July 17, 2008 03:57 PM

Time to move to SoCAL and be the ARTISTE that you are! I've stalked you the past six months like I've stalked e-boyfriends. Just waiting for a word. You are a dear, dear soul, and have been missed so much. Can't wait to see what the future brings you.

Posted by: Lauren | July 17, 2008 04:20 PM

Glad to see you back! You've been missed.

Posted by: Cindy | July 17, 2008 04:23 PM

Yay! Miss Doxie is back!
You have been terribly missed and we are all ecstatic to have you back. Can't wait for new adventures, wine and pictures please!

Posted by: Kat | July 17, 2008 06:16 PM

Glad to see you back, I've been a reader for a long time and missed your witty ways! Glad you're doing better too, everything does happen for a reason! :)

Posted by: Brandy | July 17, 2008 09:11 PM

Ya know, the last couple of days I've felt lighthearted and happier than usual, and I was just thinking that maybe it's because we have our Miss Doxie back!

You don't need to apologize for anything, darlin', just keep on writing for us. There is always a good reason that everything works out the way it does, and he wasn't good enough for you anyway. Something much better is coming along!

Posted by: Syko | July 17, 2008 09:37 PM

isn't it kind of freaky/nice to get so many well wishes from total strangers? we missed you though. you are a genuine original. and i can tell you, as hard as it's been, you made the right choice. trust me. i know. hugs to the weiner dogs. L.

Posted by: linda | July 17, 2008 09:56 PM

Oh...thank God...youre back...

Posted by: Chris | July 17, 2008 11:07 PM

Oh so glad you are back. Sorry to hear about your break up, but good for you for not being afraid to say what you wanted and not backing down. I am sure that v2.0 will be even more kick ass than the original.

Posted by: Jennifer | July 17, 2008 11:12 PM

Don't ever leave us again.
That is all.

Posted by: TeriM | July 18, 2008 12:24 AM

I am very glad to see you back, you do have one of my very favorite blogs. It is for selfish reasons, however, that I am so happy to see you writing again. I'm not sure how pretty, intelligent, dog-lovers-with-lush-tendencies successfully date these days, and I would love to learn from you.

Posted by: Allie | July 18, 2008 01:56 AM

welcome back Miss Doxie!

i have been totally unaware of drama in comments, and so am just really happy to see you're back, which means you're OK, even if you had to go through some dark places first...share whatever you're ready to share, keep to yourself what you're not, be funny or be serious - we'll be here.

Posted by: enjelani | July 18, 2008 03:33 AM

Oh my God you've been missed.
Found your site through a friends site and have been reading your blog from the very first entry on your old site, and getting a daily shot of miss doxie for the last couple of weeks. I'm glad you're back and doing better. Break ups suck.
If you ever find youself in Denmark (Scandinavia), we should totally share 10 bottles of wine (YES! DENMARK! Can you believe it?)
Welcome back
Emilie

Posted by: Emilie | July 18, 2008 04:57 AM

Glad to have you back - so sorry to hear about the hard time you've been through, but glad to hear you are feeling happier.

Posted by: Anna | July 18, 2008 08:04 AM

omg, you are NOT a failure. Better things are to come, hang in there! xo!

Posted by: justJENN | July 18, 2008 09:25 AM

Yay!!! You have been missed! I am so sorry for the hard times, it is so good to hear your voice again, you have made me almost pee my pants so many times at work, or snort out loud while I was "working." I never took you out of my daily reads, waiting for you!

Welcome back!

Posted by: Michelle Abeyta | July 18, 2008 11:10 AM

Welcome home.

I hope that you have worked out the kinks in Doxie 1.0. This new version will be better than ever, although it's hard to imagine how to improve on the previous one.

Posted by: dgm | July 18, 2008 11:40 AM

I'm totally along for the ride! Glad to see you are doing better, and can't wait to hear about your new adventures!

Shash

Posted by: Shash | July 18, 2008 11:49 AM

Welcome back, Miss Doxie. You were missed.

Posted by: Joni | July 18, 2008 12:03 PM

OMG SO GLAD YOU'RE BACK! i'm sorry to hear about Dukay but look at all the people who love you here and are ready to commit! (me! me!) I'm just so happy you're back!

Posted by: Casie | July 18, 2008 12:17 PM

Sure wish you'd been off thoroughly enjoying yourself, but so very glad you're back and doing better and better.

Posted by: Vaguely Urban | July 18, 2008 12:27 PM

YAY! You're back!!!

Posted by: Spizzby | July 18, 2008 12:33 PM

Well Fuck! I'm sorry about you and Dukay. I'm glad to know you are doing better though. You really were missed.

Posted by: karla | July 18, 2008 01:00 PM

Hi, Delurking to say I'm sorry about you and your relationship, I've had to make that decision once myself which wasn't easy but it does get better and actually even better than you can even hope for. Believe in true love, it does exist, it will find you. Good luck!

Posted by: Lori | July 18, 2008 01:24 PM

I'm so glad you're back! And sorry to hear you had a rough time, but happy to hear life is better now.

Posted by: bad penguin | July 18, 2008 01:41 PM

I really DON'T want to sound depressing, and this happened to ME, not necessarily will it happen to you.
It took me 48 years to find "the one". It was worth the wait. To find Real Love, I mean!
So good things come to those who wait, and so on.

Posted by: deb | July 18, 2008 02:01 PM

I understand how it is when you're feeling depressed. It takes more energy than you've got to do very simple things. I'm glad you're back because your stories are the highlight of my interweb day.

Posted by: daphne | July 18, 2008 02:34 PM

So glad to know you are better now, you have been missed .......

The Doxies of Wunderlich, there are 5 in the neighborhood now, all say woof and wag wag

Posted by: Cami | July 18, 2008 02:36 PM

I'm glad you're back!! I was a little worried, but can I understand why you didn't post for so long. Sorry about Dukay. But, you're right, things will be better. I've never commented before but I'm a big fan of your blog. I'm glad you'll be continuing it.

Posted by: Mary | July 18, 2008 02:38 PM

Hi - I found your blog only a few weeks before your last entry and was sad to see you go, but am happy you are back and look forward to your stories!

Posted by: Suzy in DC | July 18, 2008 03:11 PM

I am so very glad you are back and are doing better. I can't wait to hear the adventures of your shiny new life.

Posted by: Danielle | July 18, 2008 04:32 PM

Miss Doxie:

Never, ever are you a disappointment - and there's a bit of me that feels selfish as hell that I've been wanting update-y goodness while you were going through this. Thank you for coming back to us, despite all the things in yyour brainmeats.

On the other hand: Think how much wine and vodka we woulda sent you!!

It's silly and kinda weirdly creepy, but hey, you got some ardent admirers here, all of whom are rooting for you and never stopped.

Posted by: Pave.Gurl | July 18, 2008 05:07 PM

Um, just reading the comments in the previous entry myself...OMFG teh creepy haha.

I'm glad you're back, and I'm sorry to hear about you and Dukay :(, also sad that we wont be seeing his crazy patterned pants anymore!

Posted by: sarawarawoo | July 18, 2008 05:13 PM

I'm so sad that you're having to deal with all of this, and so glad that you're back! Seeing you in my RSS feed was great. I'm more than honored to be able to join in on the adventures of Doxie: the sequel, and thanks for the invitation.

Posted by: alice | July 18, 2008 06:15 PM

Am reeling with shock and delight and sadness and joy and... First, I am so very sorry about The End Of Dukay. He and his pants were quite amusing. But something about a door closing and a window opening, blah blah blahbetty blah where's my bottle, but you are too cool to be flying solo for a moment longer than you desire.

I love that you have nothing bad to say about him. Man, that is a high, high road to take. I can think of a dozen naughty things to say about My Own Somewhat Younger Husband, and he's still in the picture.

Finally... YOU OWE US IDJUTS NOTHING, Leigh. We're lucky to be along for the ride, wherever you take us, and if at any point you need to hop off, don't think twice. We can apparently amuse ourselves here in your absence just fine, oh my hell.

And now... I WILL GO LEAP AND HOP AND PRANCE ABOUT! My favorite blogger is back in action. I am ready for the photo essay: BO AS BRIDAL ACCESSORY. How many days till Halloween?

Posted by: Caroline | July 18, 2008 08:36 PM

Warm and fuzzy feelings for you.

Posted by: Heather A | July 18, 2008 08:38 PM

P.S. Any chance that Ziz and Bob will get MARRIED on Halloween?!?

Just think of the possibilities! You could be the Milkmaid of Honor! The French Maid of Honor (d'Honneur?) The METER Maid of Honor!

Posted by: Caroline | July 18, 2008 08:41 PM

Oh hell, Miss Dox. I'm sorry to hear that. I'm glad to hear you are on the mend. Love to the doggies.

Posted by: Charity | July 18, 2008 09:07 PM

Boys. They are dumb sometimes.
And sometimes we are dumb with them.

In any case, welcome to the other side. Pull up a seat - waiter'll be around shortly to take your order. ;)

First round's on the whole fucking Internet.

Posted by: Pammer | July 18, 2008 09:09 PM

Don't even know you. Checked your blog every day ... just in case. If I had your address, I'd contribute to your consumption of wine. Glad you're bad self is back.

Posted by: Lolo | July 18, 2008 09:29 PM

Missed you so much I couldn't even continue my Xmas tradition of reading with friends around the fire your Xmas decorating entry because I was afraid that I'd find out something bad had happened to you and then I'd feel bad about laughing at you and your dogs antics.

Me... I was afraid that something happened to the dogs. Hell it was just your entire future vision of your life. That can easily be replaced.

Love you, missed you and glad to see you back

Posted by: #6 | July 18, 2008 09:34 PM

Oh, dear. I haven't been by to read your blog in the longest time and I am so sorry to hear about the end of the relationship. You have so much -- a great family, loving friends, and those wonderful dogs - plus an amazing sense of humor and a marvelous gift for writing.
Keep writing, keep that sense of humor - it will see you through so much.

Posted by: Trudy | July 18, 2008 10:04 PM

>
I was secretly hoping that you were just sick of blogging and I am sorry for the pain you endured over "what's-his-name". I am THRILLED that you are back and healthy and that Ziz, Mom & Dad Doxie and the fur-kids are all OK too!
You ARE still loved by us ( in a strictly platonic non-creepy inner-net way ;P )
And not to be snarky, but anyone who wears red & embroidered pants might be better suited for Planet Unicorn!
PS Bo's evil twin says WOOF!

Posted by: wanker | July 18, 2008 10:49 PM

i am SO glad you are back! and you deserve someone who loves you for you and wants to spend the rest of his life with you. seven years is a long time to spend with someone and it would take anyone some time to get past that. i know all of your readers are just so happy to have you back and everyone has to understand the absence. yay! so glad to have miss doxie to read again!

Posted by: alison | July 18, 2008 11:22 PM

Welcome back, and welcome to your new life. I'm sorry it's been rough but I'm glad you're back. I've been there too, I came out the other end, and I'm happily married to the Best Man in the World.

Posted by: Michelle | July 19, 2008 12:28 AM

I really missed you, so glad you're back and feeling better. You don't need no steeenking Dukay!

Posted by: Lisa | July 19, 2008 06:44 AM

Oh, Miss Doxie, I'm so sorry you've had this awful hard time. It makes perfect sense that you felt so bad, huge bad; you're whole life changed, and you also lost the future life you'd imagined; double grieving. It breaks my heart to see you think about that as a failure; it is so not a failure! How can it be a mistake to have loved? Things shift and change all the time, and it just doesn't seem like you made a single bad decision to be with dukay when you were, and the decision to not be with him anymore also makes sense. You should be proud of you. I know it takes a long time to heal from something like that--but you have so many people sending you good vibes--I hope it helps.

You are great, and I am so sorry.

Posted by: Sarah | July 19, 2008 08:18 AM

I have enjoyed your entries for so long and I too, am glad you're back and glad you're feeling better. I won't miss your ex. I'm looking forward to reading about the dogs! :D Now, if you had told me that Bo filed for divorce,,,THAT would be a tragedy. And I would cry many tears...lololol!

All things happen for a reason. How could you meet the right one if you continued to stay with the wrong one? Timing is everything. You'll see. This I can promise you. (((hugs)))

Posted by: cindie | July 19, 2008 08:58 AM

Goddamn, Doxie *hugs* Welcome back!

Posted by: Raine | July 19, 2008 11:14 AM

Welcome back.. !

Posted by: Michelle | July 19, 2008 03:34 PM

Yay! I am so glad you are back! Sorry to hear about you and Dukay. You are too pretty for him anyway!! :p

Posted by: Tana | July 19, 2008 03:46 PM

"We wanted different things, and I finally realized that what I wanted -- more than anything -- was someone who just wanted me. And, as simple and lame and naive as that may sound, it wasn't what I had. And it broke my heart."

This is what I just learned yesterday about my very own relationship. And it sucks and my heart is in a million, billion pieces. But it's nothing to be embarrassed about when we gave our fucking everything and didn't get the same in return.

Posted by: Jen | July 19, 2008 05:50 PM

I don't know if you are still reading the comments but I would like to welcome you back.

I am sorry to hear about your relationship.

Tonight, I am going through what appears to be the breakup of my 5 year relationship. I posed the "future" question to my boyfriend this afternoon and he said he has to think about it, after 5 years.

Posted by: J | July 19, 2008 08:08 PM

Welcome back! Better days are coming

Posted by: dianne | July 19, 2008 11:33 PM

Welcome back! Better days are coming

Posted by: dianne | July 19, 2008 11:39 PM

Very glad to see you're back. Sorry to hear about the Dukay breakup, but it sounds like you're in a good place. I've missed you and the pups - please post pictures posthaste!

Posted by: Melissa | July 20, 2008 12:25 AM

D just remember no matter how good lookn they are there is always some girl tired of their shit. On a side note enough of the lawyering....find a puplisher and scibe on......

Posted by: bob | July 20, 2008 02:05 AM

Welcome back, Miss Doxie!

I'm so sorry that you and Dukay broke up ~ but if it wasn't meant to be, wellllll...better to find out now, rather than after a big ol' wedding.

I'm looking forward to Doxie 2.0, and hope you won't be such a stranger to your blog ~ as you can see from all the comments, you are missed when you are away! I sometimes take long trips away from my blog, too, but I don't have such loyal followers. lol

Enjoy your sister's wedding and your duties as maid of honor. Congrats to her!

HUGE internet-friendly-non-stalky {{{hugs}}} from another doxie lover ~

Kim

Posted by: Kim | July 20, 2008 03:51 AM

Doxie,

Welcome back! Wow, you are going to have a long line of guys asking you out now that you're single again....good luck sorting through all of them. :)

You are the best. Can't wait to hear about Doxie 2.0!

Posted by: M. | July 20, 2008 11:01 AM

Things are right with the world again - Miss Doxie's back!! Sorry that you've been through the wringer the past 6 months, but you have a good head on your shoulders and will weather the storm. Looking forward to Miss Doxie 2.0 and lots of stories about your new wonderful life!!

Posted by: PamK | July 20, 2008 12:24 PM

Sorry that you and Dukay were on different pages but I am glad that your doing ok now. Welcome Back....you were truly missed girl. I am looking forward to Doxie 2.0

Posted by: Amy | July 20, 2008 12:51 PM

What a mess...but glad it's over and you're back...we were so worried.

Blog on!!

Posted by: Angela | July 20, 2008 01:24 PM

Sorry about your loss but so glad to have you back. Hee hee hee...new adventures to come.

Posted by: Karen | July 20, 2008 01:51 PM

i literally screamed w joy when i saw you had updated. loudly. at the nurses station. on a pediatric floor. i am so sorry for the shitastic thing you went through, but relieved that your dad and bo are okay. welcome back!

Posted by: tifRN | July 20, 2008 02:11 PM

Perspective is a lot like shooting pool. The more you drink, the better everything looks, and consequently the easier it gets.

Not to minimize your history with Dukay, but it is his loss. You owe us nothing, and we are grateful for everything you do share with us, good bad or indifferent.

Welcome, oh welcome back.

Posted by: Annie | July 20, 2008 04:14 PM

GOOD GOD ALMIGHTY, I am SOOOO glad you are back!!!! I am so sorry to hear about you and Dukay, but yeah......it happens and it sucks and it kills you a little and then you move on, because you have to an you are fabulous and you deserve nothing less than what you see in Ziz and Bob! I sincerely hope you find it, but until then, look forward to Doxie 2.0 and all of the upcoming adventures and short (geddit, short..dauchsands...heh) stories:) We love you over here, girl and missed the hell outta you! Phew! *wipes brow*....I thought we had lost another great blogger there for awhile! Hugs!!!!

Posted by: bethany Coffey | July 20, 2008 05:18 PM

You're back! I thought you were gone from Internet-Land FOREVER and I am SO SO SORRY to hear about your heartbreak but I'm so glad you posted already. And I hate being anyone's 340th comment, so this is a testament to how much I missed Miss Doxie. Welcome home!!

Posted by: Jo-Lynne (Musings of a Housewife) | July 20, 2008 06:28 PM

Girl, it is your blog. You can post whenever and however you want; no apologies necessary. You are the best.

And you know what? We've all (well, most of us have) been there with breaking up with someone we thought was the one. And you meet someone else. You will not be Miss Havisham.

I am so glad you're back I could scream. AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA!!!

Posted by: June | July 20, 2008 06:38 PM

Oh yeah, and P.S. Good mature-behavioring on the whole being happy for Ziz. I would have been all "But Dukay and I broke up tonight!"

Okay. Back to screaming. "...AAAAAAA!"

Posted by: June | July 20, 2008 06:41 PM

Well damn! I'm sorry you ended up being let down that way. It's a shame because you deserve everything you ask for!

Glad to have you back!

Posted by: Krystal | July 20, 2008 07:55 PM

Welcome back!
You've been through so much.

And have so many wonderful things in store for yourself!!

Onward and Upward!

Posted by: Jane | July 20, 2008 09:22 PM

WOW!!!! FINALLY!!!!! Iam so glad that you are so glad and that things are turning out OK.. I look forward to Doxie 2.0 and can't wait to finally have my favorite dose of funny!!!!!!!!

XOXO,
KK

Posted by: KK | July 20, 2008 10:24 PM

I am glad you're back and things will get better. Keep your head up!

Posted by: cathy | July 20, 2008 11:01 PM

...Wuv.

Posted by: Doxie Misser | July 21, 2008 01:01 AM

Hurray! and welcome back. And Boo! about being sad but also Hurray! about getting where you want to be. Great to see you here again.

Posted by: Ashley | July 21, 2008 08:59 AM

Yipppeee!! You are back. We missed you. Sorry that you have been sad but glad to hear you are feeling better now. Looking forward to updates.

Posted by: Alison C | July 21, 2008 09:24 AM

Great to have you back, you funny woman, you.

Posted by: Gaslight | July 21, 2008 12:19 PM

Dear Miss Daxie
Thank you so much for coming back - I have missed you and especially the tales of your dachsies. Congratulations also to your sis !
Wishing you the happy life that awaits you.

Posted by: Foxkerrydax | July 21, 2008 12:30 PM

Very, very glad to see you back. We missed you lots.

I'm so sorry to hear about the breakup ... but happy to hear you're feeling better than ever.

Congrats to your sister on her engagement, but even more to you on your strength in coming back here after so long, and in being so brutally open about why you were gone. You don't owe anyone here a thing, but it is damn good to have you back. Did I mention that we missed you?

Raising a glass to you, even if it is only 10 am ...

Posted by: Stephanie K | July 21, 2008 01:22 PM

I am so sorry for the shit you have been going through but thrilled you are back. I think you're beyond brave and will kick ass in this new life... we're honored that you let us in to be a part of it. Rock on woman!

Posted by: Paula | July 21, 2008 01:43 PM

Yikes! I left the internet for a week, just a week! and you came back.

So sorry that things were bad, happy to see you back again, and very glad things are looking up!

Posted by: Jess | July 21, 2008 02:30 PM

Hey!! Welcome back!! I'm really sorry for all the crap that you've been though and I'm thrilled that you're feeling better and are back!! Missed reading your blog. How are the kids? Miss hearing about them.

Posted by: Pam | July 21, 2008 02:35 PM

Y'know at funerals, when you hug one of the bereaved (someone you haven't seen in a really long time) and you're so glad to see them and you say aloud, (smiling as you say it) "It's so good to see you" and you really mean it, but you suddenly realize that you probably shouldn't be that glad to see them because this is sucking way worse for them than it is for you (cause you really and truly ARE glad to see them.....happy, even) and you want to not be so happy to see them, because you feel bad for them, too, but because it's really all about you and how you feel (happy to see them) and because you are deeply shallow you just can't get that stupid grin off your face and really what's the point of trying to repair the damage because there are so many people there they won't remember what you said anyway? Yeah. Like that. For me for you.

Posted by: bamacapa | July 21, 2008 05:09 PM

I like shiny new Doxie already! She's funny. And cute! Congratulations on your new life, sister.

(Can you tell I've been there? Well, except mine involved marriage vows and shit.)

Posted by: Tasty | July 21, 2008 05:55 PM

Wow, I was already enamored of the Doxie (from afar) but now that you're on the Mac I think we're looking at stalking (from afar).

Posted by: DKC | July 21, 2008 10:39 PM

YAY...you're back! Bring on the wine and the doxie stories!

Posted by: Trish | July 21, 2008 11:02 PM

Someone actually came to my blog to announce that you were back since I had expressed my sorrow at your absence. Honestly, I thought you were dead...except that I knew someone from your highschool and googled your name and "obituaries" and came up with nothing (gladly). Then I thought that someone else had died....then I thought you had just lost interest and decided blogging wasn't your thing anymore. dude, your prerogative...

We missed you! I get why you didn't blog....I'm sure the last thing you wanted to do was spill your guts and splatter them on the internet. Glad you are doing much MUCH better! Breakups are horrible, but they give you perspective and make you appreciate your friends sooo very much!

We are always privileged to be welcomed into your life and I hope you know that any guy willing to give you up should have his head examined.

Miss Doxie Back...YAY!!!!

The world makes sense again.

Posted by: Circe | July 21, 2008 11:28 PM

You're back! Hurrah! I'm sorry about the rough time, but you're equipped with more than enough brains, warmth and humour to get through it.

Posted by: JBird | July 21, 2008 11:53 PM

Welcome back Miss Doxie. Sorry to hear about you and Dukay. Now to the important thing - How is Bo?

Posted by: Frank | July 22, 2008 12:47 AM

Just so you know, the biggest, most awful crises in my life have always turned out to be the catalyst to something much more wonderful. I'm hoping the same for you! Sooo glad to see you back!

Posted by: Lori K in TX | July 22, 2008 09:39 AM

You know, Leigh, when not in the midst of a breakup, it's easy to look around, emotions firmly in check, and declare post-breakup feelings and behaviors "teen angst." They seem so juvenile! We should be adults, damn it! Yeah. Right. Your heart was broken, and that sucks no matter how old you are. Glad you're feeling better -- and welcome back!!

Posted by: Melissa | July 22, 2008 10:39 AM

Hey Leigh,

I'm sorry for all the shizz you've had to deal with over the past 6 or so months, but it bothers me more that you've been fretting over what people have said here, on YOUR site.

If people get some type of thrill of leaving jackass comments on your site, do a Dooce and shut comments off. This is YOUR turf regardless of what the masses say and there is no need for you to fear and or take peoples abuse because you haven't been here. You don't OWE anybody here anything....

Congrats on the Mac! I bought a IMac last week after having many weeks of problems with my PC that runs on Vista. Microsoft can kiss my ass! I'll never go back to using a PC. I'll resort to using a inkwell and writing on tree bark first.

Be well and I'm glad you're back.

Posted by: Stacy | July 22, 2008 11:00 AM

Oh, Doxie. I am so sorry. I hope you know that even this very sad post made me laugh out loud at the end.

Posted by: Operation Pink Herring | July 22, 2008 11:07 AM

Yay, Doxie, you're back! So sorry to hear about the "life speedbump" you've hit... but now you can start cruising through the rest of your life.

How's that for a stupid cliche?

Anyway... welcome back. We missed you!

Posted by: Jen | July 22, 2008 11:31 AM

So glad you are back!

Posted by: claire | July 22, 2008 11:43 AM

So glad you are back!

Posted by: claire | July 22, 2008 11:43 AM

Dude, I'm glad to see you back. I'd been wondering about you; I've enjoyed your site for quite a while. Glad to hear you are doing better, and I'm looking forward to The New Doxie.

Keep on keepin' on, eh?

Posted by: Meetzorp | July 22, 2008 01:33 PM

Oh my god! so fucking happy you are back. I've been sitting on a photo of weiners dressed as hot dogs running a race for who knows how many months and now I can send it to you. Is your email working?
And so sorry for the bad times you had. Here's for better things to come.

Posted by: Ana | July 22, 2008 01:34 PM

Well, you are officially my official life parallel. Complete with doxies, the very recent loss of one, the turning 30, the break-up of 4-year relationship in December with hilarious super-fun guy that LO! did NOT want any of the things that I thought were so obvious. And, of course, all the wine too.

I think you are so incredible. Here I was feeling all sorry for myself and yet it happened to you, someone who's beatiful and smart and witty as hell. Thank you for sharing and reminding me that this can, and does, happen to the best of us.

So, cheers to you, and to me, and to new shiny lives and new shiny shoes.

J.

Posted by: J. | July 22, 2008 02:22 PM

thanks for coming back. I wish I had something insightful to say, but no. Just wanted you to know you were missed.

Posted by: reina | July 22, 2008 03:15 PM

I agree, sister, losing a future you'd had your heart set on hurts so much and I'm sorry you had to deal with it. What you said about just wanting someone who wants to be with you is not naive at all, though. It took me a good long time to learn that same lesson. I was similarly sad to walk away from what I thought had been my future. But when I found the guy who actually wanted just me, it was (and continues to be many years later) the best thing I could have ever done for myself, and for the people who loved me.

Cheers to new lives and we're all so happy to have you back!

Posted by: bec | July 22, 2008 04:47 PM

Welcome back! We missed you so much! You are such a good sister you deserve a medal or a trophy or something... And in case you were wondering from the reader perspective Dukay was just another supporting character in the Doxie cast, its your fantabulous writing and funnyness that make the website worth checking everday, when I should be, I don't know, working or some such nonsense. Glad you are alive, glad to have you back, v.much looking forward to new and exciting news from Doxieland.

Posted by: deborah | July 22, 2008 05:40 PM

You're back...thank gawd. I'm sorry to hear about you and Dukay, but also glad to hear you're in a better place. No worries about your absence, we're all just glad you're back.

Posted by: Hillary | July 22, 2008 05:45 PM

I actually did a little dance when I saw that you had posted...right here in my work chair :) Cheers to Doxie Volume 2.0!

Posted by: Andrea | July 22, 2008 06:01 PM

Oh, Miss Doxie...SO freakin glad you're back, I can't even contain myself. Even after the horribly shitty day I've had today (if you care to read my post about my poor going blind baby...but I'm totally exaggerating, he just needs to wear glasses) it totally made me smile to see that you were back. And okay. And my eyes are puffy but I'm glad they're not swollen shut so I could read this! But I'm even a little more puffy & teary now. So...thanks for that.

And I (and I assume everyone else) comes here for YOU and not Dukay. We don't need him to have a good time. You're going to be the new & improved Miss Doxie...if that's even possible! Mwah!

Posted by: AMomTwoBoys | July 22, 2008 06:47 PM

Oh, Miss Doxie...SO freakin glad you're back, I can't even contain myself. Even after the horribly shitty day I've had today (if you care to read my post about my poor going blind baby...but I'm totally exaggerating, he just needs to wear glasses) it totally made me smile to see that you were back. And okay. And my eyes are puffy but I'm glad they're not swollen shut so I could read this! But I'm even a little more puffy & teary now. So...thanks for that.

And I (and I assume everyone else) comes here for YOU and not Dukay. We don't need him to have a good time. You're going to be the new & improved Miss Doxie...if that's even possible! Mwah!

Posted by: AMomTwoBoys | July 22, 2008 06:56 PM

Missed you, love you, glad you're back!

Posted by: Angela | July 22, 2008 08:34 PM

Welcome Back! You've been missed. I've been through it too. Thank goodness you had the doxies by your side.

Looking forward to great new stories!

Posted by: Steph | July 22, 2008 08:40 PM

Congrats on overcoming your scaredness,that seems like a sign that you are well on your way back to being the you that you love!
oh, and just you wait- you'll have another visit from the post-teen-angst fairy when you start dating again. Upside is, it seems to really entertain people then : )

Posted by: Jes | July 22, 2008 09:38 PM

Welcome back, Goddess!! Thank you so much for sharing your life with us. I feel you and understand (as much as possible without actually being you) what you have been going through. Maybe you know by now, but I'll say it anyway: we are here for you, not Dukay. We love YOU! So happy you're feeling happy again! xxox

Posted by: Elijah | July 22, 2008 10:19 PM

(hugs) I'll be honored to be along for the ride.

Hang in there, okay? We're all cheering you on, as the three hundred-plus comments indicate. ^n_n^

Posted by: Multi-Facets | July 23, 2008 12:44 AM

Dox, I'm sorry things didn't work out with Dukay the way you'd expected, but you are so courageous for coming to terms with the fact that you two wanted different things, pushing through that, and moving forward. Welcome back.

Posted by: Kida | July 23, 2008 06:52 AM

Glad you are doing well. Wonderfully written post.

Posted by: WendyB | July 23, 2008 08:39 AM

Welcome back, girl. I can't imagine anyone giving you a hard time about your whole world falling apart. I'm just glad you're okay, now. Hang in there, and remember that time wounds all heels.

Posted by: Nancy in CT | July 23, 2008 12:14 PM

PLEASE do not make us wait 6 months for another update!

Posted by: Gayle Miller | July 23, 2008 12:16 PM

You know, all this time I have been reading your site I had always thought that it was you and only you at the helm. Your words and your stories. Some of the best told stories on the Internet, at that.

I am so pleased that you are feeling better than you were. You deserve to be loved wholly and for nothing more than you who really are. I think you're wonderful, Miss Doxie, and I am sure that you will find all the happiness in the world.

Sorry for the excessive gushiness - I was so saddened to read your story, and not once annoyed with you that you hadn't posted. xxx

Posted by: Léonie | July 23, 2008 12:30 PM

Thank you for coming back. We've missed you.

Posted by: Johnny Sapphire | July 23, 2008 01:36 PM

frequent reader, rare commenter, just here to say that I'm glad you're back and I'm sorry there was a shitty time, but way to pull through the shitty time with grace and humor and courage (really). welcome back. I'm in for Doxie version 2.0!

Posted by: jen | July 23, 2008 02:05 PM

Perhaps this category shouldn't be "Times I fell down", but "Times I stood up again" instead.
Glad to have you back, your posts always make me laugh out loud.

Posted by: DBN | July 23, 2008 02:31 PM

Gosh, I was this close to giving up on you, I thought you had closed up shop and I was wondering how long continually lurking would come across as stalking. Glad you're back.

But on the other hand, now that you're back my blog is less funny, in the grand internet scheme of things. Oh well....

Posted by: House of Suz | July 23, 2008 02:34 PM

/hug

Posted by: Melinda | July 23, 2008 02:34 PM

It's like Christmas. Only better.

(And I'm glad you're feeling awesome!)

Posted by: Isabel | July 23, 2008 02:38 PM

Yay!! I am glad you and Dukay broke up, NOT because I don't like Dukay, and he makes a lovely character in a story, BUT because every girl deserves a wonderful man, who wants her, and loves her, and I want that for you Doxie!! If Dukay can't give you what you want, then you need to find the guy that can, and I am rooting for you. You have brought me a lot of joy, and you deserve wonderful things in life and love. Don't feel like a failure, or be embarassed, THAT is utterly ridiculous. Breaking up is hard to do...ha! and it is better to be tough and move There is my cliche for day : )

Also just as a side note, since you aren't going to read the comments, we all ate each other. Your fans are cannibals, and without your guidance, they attacked and preyed on one another...LOL! Glad ou are back to keep us all safe...yikes...I was scared!

Posted by: Casey | July 23, 2008 03:41 PM

Well, after 300 some odd comments this may be unnecessary but I am so glad that you are back, even if it is only temporary!

Posted by: MJF | July 23, 2008 04:14 PM

Oh Miss Doxie, I am just so happy to have you back that I cried all the way through this post. Welcome back, my dear. I'm sorry about my mascara stains.

Posted by: Nothing But Bonfires | July 23, 2008 05:26 PM

Oh Miss Doxie, I was so glad to have you back that I cried all the way through this post. Welcome back, my dear. Sorry about my mascara stains.

Posted by: Nothing But Bonfires | July 23, 2008 05:28 PM

Ahem. So very glad you're back. Even if you never read this far down, you can look at the number of comments and see that you have an entire ARMY of people that wish you well and are glad as hell to have you back. And that sometimes speak in rhyme. Because who doesn't want an anonymous army of rhyming internet friends? No one, that's who!

Posted by: ellbee | July 23, 2008 06:01 PM

I am comment #400. No, I haven't read them, but it should be an indication of how much you've been missed.

I would have checked in sooner (you're on My Favorites) but I've had a rough couple of weeks myself, including semi-major surgery.

So, let me just say: I MISSED YOU. Very much. And I'm glad you're back. And I'm so sorry for your loss.

Posted by: Suzy Q | July 23, 2008 06:37 PM

Oh my God oh my God oh my God. You're back.

We love you!

Posted by: eazymissyee | July 23, 2008 08:16 PM

Miss Doxie! I did a weird sort of shriek out loud when I saw that you had posted. I miss your writing an awful lot and I cannot even express how happy I am that you are back. I've been thinking about making some major life decisions lately, and you have empowered me to think more seriously about MY happiness and the self-renewal process.

And I think I speak for mostly everyone here when I say, we come here for YOU! Glad to have you back and am looking forward to watching this new life sprout.

Posted by: Grandma Chic | July 23, 2008 10:01 PM

Miss Doxie! I am so glad to hear you're back, but like everyone else very sorry for all you've been going through. I can't even imagine how hard it must still be after almost seven years. I was a wreck for months after my last break up, and the relationship wasn't nearly as long (although I did eventually find out that my ex...a divinity student...had cheated on me with one of the high schoolers on the the mission trip he lead...which: ew.) I will wear my pretty Shop Doxie button hair pin tomorrow in celebration of your improving circumstances! Good luck and take care!!

Posted by: Lroo | July 24, 2008 12:39 AM

Aw, honey. You don't know me from Eve but I love your blog and wondered if you were ok. Glad to see you're back & I'm wishing you well. Here's to better times!

Posted by: Space Kitty | July 24, 2008 12:54 AM

Hey there, Doxie! Glad you are still out there amongst us! I'm so sorry to hear about Dukay. I'm kind of in the same situation, except in reverse. Cody and I have been together for over four years and he knows what he wants (me), but I don't know what I want just yet. Hope the "children" are being helpful! I'm sure Bo will lick all your wounds! Glad things are getting better for you. I'm sure that some day, you'll remember all your code. LMAO! I barely know enough code to make my Live Journal look good...at times. Many hugs from the people in this house, and loads of licks and wags from the dachshunds!

Posted by: sammynella | July 24, 2008 09:13 AM

I'll be reading. Even though I wasn't exactly wailing and gnashing my teeth (and getting batshit in the comments), I have been checking your site regularly to see when (if?) you'd be back. And now you are, and it's a happy day. Sorry you had to go through all that unpleasantness, and glad you're back.

Posted by: Fraulein N | July 24, 2008 11:46 AM

Glad you're back, Miss Doxie. The internet has missed you.

Posted by: M | July 24, 2008 01:08 PM

Oy freakin' vey, woman...seems that you are the Cosmos' own little drama magnet. What a shitfest you've been through for the last year! All I can say is that a.) its obvious that you needed some recoup time away from the expectation of the innernets, and I'm so glad you took it, b.) you're one of the strongest, funniest, multi-tasking-est, and downright mentally grittiest blond bombshells I've ever seen and you can handle it and c.) don't worry, because(in honor of my favorite "Shop Doxie" item that now resides on the collar of a fabulous 8olb snuggle-bunny Berner named Bella): BUTT LIKES YOU!

Um-- now that I think about it...that last one is kind of "ew". But I think you see what I'm saying. Which is, of course: Welcome back!

Posted by: lyrica71 | July 24, 2008 02:26 PM

I am so glad you are back. I just wanted to let you know that it was when I finally stopped dating and just decided to be happy all by myself that I met THE ONE. So...you never know. Hugs!

Posted by: Elizabeth | July 24, 2008 03:05 PM

I just checked today on a lark. So good to see you again.

Posted by: UG | July 24, 2008 03:38 PM

So glad to see you are back in the saddle again...
I checked everyday for months just hoping you were back...Yay!

Posted by: Angie | July 24, 2008 03:40 PM

thank the Lord in heaven. It was scary there, thinking things! In case you are still reading these comments (I am in the 400's), just know what I know: things always turn out the way they are supposed to. I am so glad you are okay and doing better now. You really have been missed. How are the dogs?

Posted by: dorrie | July 24, 2008 03:51 PM

Delurking to say YAY! I almost didn't check today but you never know and there you were!! Welcome back! and for what it's worth, my favorite quote: "Here's all you need to know about men and women: women are crazy and men are stupid. And the only reason women are crazy is men are stupid."-George Carlin I'm just saying.

Posted by: Teri | July 24, 2008 04:17 PM

Oh, Sweetie! So, so, glad you are back! I was afraid that something had happened to your sweet Daddy. Breakups are so hard and it does take a long time to "become yourself" afterward. I'm just glad to know that you (and the fam) are okay. You have been missed.

Oh and by the way...it's the 24th now...bout time for another update, huh?

Posted by: Jackie | July 24, 2008 05:31 PM

I'm truly sorry. Your relationship always sounded like the kind of thing dreams are made of. And Dukay always looked and sounded like he was a real sweetie, but clearly he's a poor, misguided sweetie who doesn't know what's good for him.

Congratulations to Ziz, by the way, and a big hug to you for being so happy for her at such a difficult time in your life. That says a lot about the kind of family you have and the kind of person you are.

Posted by: b | July 24, 2008 05:51 PM

I peed myself a little when I saw your new post. We missed you like you'd miss an amputated leg...always wondering where it went, feeling incomplete without it. But now you're back! Throw that prosthesis in the garbage and have a party!

Posted by: delighted | July 24, 2008 06:22 PM

Breaking up sucks donkeyballs.

Am SO FREAKING GLAD that you're back.

Posted by: arubagirl | July 24, 2008 09:06 PM

let loose the dogs of war! (where's a proper cliche when you want one??)

- one of many that is happy as a pig in slop that you're back in the saddle ... so to speak ... and pleased to continue watching the journey unfold (right, now stepping away from the keyboard)

Posted by: lische | July 24, 2008 11:05 PM

I know you've had a gazillion comments but I wanted to add my welcome back and also to tell you that the worst break-up I ever had was with a good friend about whom I could say nothing bad. It's SO much easier if there is a bad guy (well, and if the bad guy isn't, um, me.) Hang in there and remember, should there be some nostalgia, that Retro-Booty doesn't count.

Posted by: Barb | July 25, 2008 09:50 AM

I am so glad you're back. And so grateful for all the "can't breathe I'm laughing so hard" moments you've given me. Bless you.

Posted by: Jane | July 25, 2008 02:02 PM

hell yeah! you go, miss doxie. you are a fabulously wonderful person and, quite frankly, a friend of mine and i rather jealous of your fabulousness. we were just talking about how fabulous you are last night, over ice cream. sorry no wine, but there were martinis consumed.

if you ever need mac help, email me. oh, and web code stuff, too. :)

Posted by: helen | July 25, 2008 03:41 PM

hell yeah! you go, miss doxie. you are a fabulously wonderful person and, quite frankly, a friend of mine and i are rather jealous of your fabulousness. we were just talking about how fabulous you are last night, over ice cream. sorry no wine, but there were martinis consumed.

if you ever need mac help, email me. oh, and web code stuff, too. :)

Posted by: helen | July 25, 2008 03:41 PM

I'm ever so glad you're back, even though the interim stuff must have been pretty sucky.

And I have to tell you that Mary Doria Russell's latest novel, Dreamers of the Day, features a dachshund named Rosie who makes her displeasure at being left at home known by... leaving a present on the carpet. I thought immediately of Bo.

Posted by: Lisa | July 25, 2008 04:09 PM

Miss Doxie, I'm so sorry to hear about you and Dukay. I'm glad you feel better now, especially that you're back to posting. Heh.

Here's to Doxie 2.0!

Posted by: evier | July 25, 2008 04:53 PM

Dude! I'm just glad that your dogs are okay. Your dogs are okay, right?

Sorry about the breakup. I'm glad you're feeling better.

Posted by: mtb | July 25, 2008 05:37 PM

When I went through my painful divorce, I thought that everyone who goes through a painful break-up did it WAY better than I was doing, because what I was doing was just falling apart and everyone else seemed oh-so together. And then I saw Uma Thurman talking to Oprah about her dissolving marriage and I thought "GURLFRIEND!!! You and I -- we're so alike! We're going through the exact same thing!!! Let's do lunch!"

What I'm trying to say is that I imagine most of your readers (including myself) can totally relate to the full-system shut-down that you experienced and we're all OK with it. That was important shit-getting-together time. And I'm glad you're back.

Posted by: MostEvilTwin | July 25, 2008 06:00 PM

Crappy stuff happens in everyone's life. my journal tends to just be a format to complain.
fear nothing
We love you.
Men tend to be dumb
dogs love you
bo will always defend you

And we are doing Numfar's Dance of Joy at seeing your return!

;

Posted by: thelittlewitch | July 25, 2008 09:18 PM

I am extremely sorry for your loss. There is no break like the heartbreak.

So can we sleep together the next time I'm in Atlanta? I mean, it would be for you, not me, you know? Therapy, kind of like. I'm doing this for your own good.

OK, to be serious, I and many others have walked there. It does hurt but the pain does go away. So glad you're back.

And congratulations to the sister, who played a role in the single funniest burning baby video I have ever seen.

Posted by: Michael | July 26, 2008 10:45 AM

You're back!!!! You're back!!! You're back!!!! The "Internets" loooooooooooooovvvvveeessss you! =)

Sending you all the best from Wisconsin!

(And did I mention you're back??? Whoo-hoo! =)

Posted by: Kim | July 26, 2008 06:29 PM

Sorry to hear about you and Dukay, breakups always just suck. But Yay! You're back! You are loved, you know, and just cause Dukay was IN the stories, it didn't make Doxie a better website. YOU make it so entertaining, my dear. Can't wait to join you in celebrating your shiny new life!

Posted by: Lula | July 26, 2008 10:40 PM

You know what, gorgeous? I totally get the revamp thing. I am so sorry to hear about dukay, but if it was for the best, and you're feeling better, then good for you. You are the funniest little thing on the interwebs and I for one (or 431 as it would seem from the comments) am so excited for your return. :)

Posted by: RaeLeigh | July 27, 2008 02:01 AM

Glad to join you, Leigh! Things do happen for a reason. It is as it should be. You are very special, and the right person WILL find you!

You've given me countless hours of joy, and I'm looking forward to many more, sweet child. (Yes, I AM old enough to be your mother! In fact I have a daughter who turned 30 this year.)

ONWARD, Girl!

With Love & Hugs,
Kay

Posted by: Kay | July 27, 2008 09:55 AM

Glad to join you, Leigh! Things do happen for a reason. It is as it should be. And the right someone WILL find you!

You have given me countless hours of joy, and I am looking forward to many more, sweet child. (Yes, I AM old enough to be your mother. In fact I have a daughter who turned 30 this year.)

ONWARD, Girl!

With Love & Hugs,
Kay & the 8 doxies

Posted by: Kay | July 27, 2008 09:59 AM

Hi Miss Doxie,
You didn't fail, your life just took a different turn. I know you will get back on your feet and a new someone wonderful will come into your life. I have missed your stories and am glad you finally wrote. I love the dog stories. I hope there are some brewing. Take care and try to remember that life changes and the twists and turns are what make it interesting. Love, Chris

Posted by: Chris | July 27, 2008 02:19 PM

Glad to have you back! :)

Posted by: Eva | July 27, 2008 02:46 PM

I'm glad it's working out for you. You're right that things work out the way that they're supposed to in these situations...

Posted by: Lisa | July 27, 2008 04:20 PM

We missed you more than could be imagined...

Welcome Back Miss Doxie!

Posted by: meddy | July 27, 2008 07:27 PM

I would echo the comments above and say that it is indeed good to have you back.

As for the breakup, I found the worst part was that after so long together, virtually every park, building or person reminded me of her...and so it went, but time passed and now fate has brought me someone new, who rather amusingly calls herself my Doxy - chin up and sail on lovely one.

Posted by: Bill | July 27, 2008 09:30 PM

delurking to say, welcome back! we really have missed you big time!

Posted by: miss petite america | July 27, 2008 11:41 PM

*Hugs*

I just thought of you after a looong time and popped by to read up on what you've been going thru and I'm sorry to hear about what happened.

But things will get better and the next lucky fella that comes along will be the one for you. :)

I just got through a bad patch with my husband and we dated for 6years before getting married for 8mths, contemplating about annulment for 6mths and finally getting things to work out.

Well... in short my point is, things always works out when the time comes.

Chin up and cheer up MD!

Posted by: sheepie | July 28, 2008 02:19 AM

I am SO glad you are posting again. I was thinking I was going to have to LEAVE NYC and come hunt you up in Atlanta. Phew! Disaster averted.

On the other hand, I was really scared that something had happened to your Daddy and that was why you were so silent. The other worry I had was Dukay. I'm so sorry that it has come to this with y'all. Hugs, girlfriend!

I can't wait for the adventures to come in Doxie 2.0 ... let the ride begin!

Posted by: Melissa O | July 28, 2008 02:31 AM

Glad you are ok. Sad you were sad. Yay on the Mac. Welcome back!

Posted by: Kath | July 28, 2008 10:44 AM

Oh! How rude of me to forget. YAY for Ziz and Bob!!

Posted by: Kath | July 28, 2008 10:46 AM

welcome back. sorry for the crap you had to wade through, but maybe it will fertilize the next chapter of your life. see, i'm also cliche girl.

Posted by: Dawn | July 28, 2008 11:16 AM

I am SO glad to see your post. I have checked back often and missed your blog. I know all about stepping back and getting ready to move forward. I just know that wonderful things are heading your direction! One of your fans..

Posted by: Alicia | July 28, 2008 02:22 PM

Oh Doxie! I have been faithfully checking in for updates and was so happy to see a post! I am sorry for the upending of your world but eventually things right themselves, as shitty as it can be! Keep blogging! You are one of my faves!

Posted by: Princess of Power | July 28, 2008 02:46 PM

Hooray that you're better now! I dyed my hair blue after a break-up, so I totally get the desire to dye your hair black. Sorry you had to go through this, but glad that you are recovering so nicely. Many hugs to you and the doggies...

Posted by: Leesavee | July 28, 2008 03:20 PM

Welcome back! As you can totally tell, we all missed you. We love you for you, not 'cause you were half of a cute couple, so blog away- no judgement here, just love and happiness you wrote.

Posted by: Nic | July 28, 2008 03:27 PM

Ok we need an update again soon, you can't tease us like this, please don't disappear again. My biggest fear is you decide to post only once a year.

so scared.

Posted by: jen | July 28, 2008 03:32 PM

So glad you are back and feeling better! Can't wait to see what you have in store for us in the future. :)

Posted by: Ivie | July 28, 2008 04:37 PM

Miss Doxie. Sweetheart. Darling. Admitting failure is what the internet is *for.* Also, admitting weird fetishes. And googling scary medical conditions!

(BTW: His failure, not yours. HIS FAILURE.)

Hi, I also just noticed you called this entry "ReDox." So now I love you even more.

Welcome back. I gots my wine *right here.*

Posted by: Gabbiana | July 28, 2008 06:48 PM

Speaking of cliches:

Time heals all wounds
(annoying because generally true)

When life hands you lemons make lemonade
(annoying because we'd all rather have wine than lemonade)

Glad you're back, you have been missed!

Posted by: doxrox | July 28, 2008 07:32 PM

Thrilled you're back!

Posted by: Lucy | July 28, 2008 09:11 PM

I have no idea if you're still reading these comments (because there are a kajillion of them), but I just wanted to say how glad I am that you are back and that while I am sad about Dukay, I am so glad everyone is alive.

Also, you should totally go back and read the comments from the last entry. It got pretty hilarious and weird.

Posted by: Contrary | July 29, 2008 10:22 AM

Oh wow... *hugs*

I had something similar happen to me. I started dating a college friend and thought he was THE ONE. We were the couple that made everyone go "aww!" or retch from Teh Cute. Four years together, a move to Ohio, a move to Texas, a move BACK to Ohio, a bank account together, blah blah blah. Everything that would indicate a commitment, a lifetime together... and then it just didn't happen. I was scared that I had let my parents down, my friends down (we were all friends in college), etc. I was sick about it.

But it happened, and life went on (and in this sentence, "life" equals "a crappy boyfriend"), I got smart ("smart" equalling "dumped crappy boyfriend") and I met my current boyfriend, who is AWESOME.

It'll happen. You haven't let anybody down. Because really, we're here for YOU. We all want you to be happy, and you need to do what's best for you. What will make you (and keep you) the funny, clever, intelligent, and adorable Miss Doxie that we know and love.

I hope you're hanging in there, and big hugs to you, your family, and of course the pups.

Posted by: Wendy | July 29, 2008 07:51 PM

Glad to have you back, congrats to ziz & bob, and hope to be reading more of you here. Remember, need friends, got them here.

Posted by: DoxieFan | July 29, 2008 07:54 PM

Glad you're back, Miss Doxie. I come here to read your funny words, and as amusing as your Dukay stories could be, I'll freely admit that I'm really here for the doxies. :)

Congratulations on embracing a new life in your own time. Wishing the best for you.

PS: You didn't fail at your life. Totally.

Posted by: Holly | July 29, 2008 09:24 PM

Also glad to see you back. Just read the "updated" (working on your HTML) - "about" link - and it says you have 2 doxies. Have you lost a doxie?

Posted by: Anya | July 30, 2008 11:57 AM

I'm there. Welcome back :)

Posted by: Chris | July 30, 2008 01:51 PM

I feel like I just heard from a long lost friend. So wonderful to have you back. My first glass of wine tonight will be dedicated to you.

Posted by: Lauren | July 30, 2008 04:22 PM

GIRL ~ YOU HAVE BEEN SO MISSED. My sister and I checked your site every day for awhile just hoping and wishing you were back. She JUST called to tell me you had a new post. Listen here missy ~ while I am sad for your past few months and happy for your hear and now ~ I was really concerned that there was much more tragedy. So I am glad to see you back ~ and so thankful my favorite blogger has found her typing fingers again!!!!

Posted by: Alison | July 30, 2008 04:57 PM

So glad to see you back in business without dyed black hair! Break ups are hard and I totally sympathize.... can't wait for the new and improved version!

Posted by: Megan | July 30, 2008 05:10 PM

Yo, Miss Dox. So happy you're back. So sad you were sad. Not to sound stalkerish or anything BUT you have a bunch of friends you haven't even met yet who would LOVE, LOVE, LOVE to buy you a drink at the Yacht Club (Can you hear them chanting?). They are all veterans (unembittered, swear!) of the situation of which you speak, and ALL of them have come out the other side--some even have come out the other side BETROTHED. Write me at that email address if you get a wild hair. . . we met eons ago at the Atlanta Craft Mafia. I'm embarrassed to recall that I think I yelled, "Miss Doxie!" But I'm older now and ever so much wiser. Mostly.

Posted by: Deb | July 30, 2008 05:42 PM

Yo, Miss Dox. So happy you're back. So sad you were sad. Not to sound stalkerish or anything BUT you have a bunch of friends you haven't even met yet who would LOVE, LOVE, LOVE to buy you a drink at the Yacht Club (Can you hear them chanting?). They are all veterans (unembittered, swear!) of the situation of which you speak, and ALL of them have come out the other side--some even have come out the other side BETROTHED. Write me at that email address if you get a wild hair. . . we met eons ago at the Atlanta Craft Mafia. I'm embarrassed to recall that I think I yelled, "Miss Doxie!" But I'm older now and ever so much wiser. Mostly.

Posted by: Deb | July 30, 2008 05:42 PM

So fantastic to see you again! I'm very sorry to hear about all The Troubles, but quite happy (that you shared them with us, and!) to hear you are back.

Posted by: Kerri Anne | July 30, 2008 07:34 PM

"Nothing but good times ahead."

Welcome back Miss Doxie.
Cheers!

Posted by: Rita | July 30, 2008 09:29 PM

Six of one and a half dozen of the other is better than a bird in a bush.

missed you.

Posted by: ShakenFruit | July 30, 2008 09:42 PM

Welcome back!!! The innernets is a better place with you in it.

Posted by: Sarah | July 30, 2008 11:18 PM

Welcome back!!!! We missed you, you rock.

Posted by: Karen | July 30, 2008 11:38 PM

Miss Doxie ~

I am a longtime reader and have practically given myself a repetitive stress injury typing in your URL to check on you these past few months!

'Where's mah Miss Doxie?' I would ask myself in a very bad approximation of a Southern accent. Because that's how I imagine you would speak and all...

But now I'm sounding like a crazy stalker and I'm totally not, I'm just a big fan of yours and want to say you were missed, I'm sorry times have been tough for you, and I'm glad you're back!

Posted by: Watson | July 30, 2008 11:55 PM

I'm so sorry. I know you were hurt.

I'm SO glad you are back. You were very, very missed.

How's Bo taking things?

Posted by: Amy | July 31, 2008 01:22 AM

Whoa, can you believe how many people still drop by often enough that there're SO MANY COMMENTS ON THE FIRST DAY YOU POSTED THIS? That right there is a testament to how much you were missed. Makes me feel guilty it took me a couple of weeks to discover you're back.

Welcome back!

Posted by: Shawna | July 31, 2008 02:34 PM

Hello. You probably will never read this with 400+ comments, but I jut wanted to tell you that you don't owe anyone anything! This is YOUR blog, YOUR space, YOUR time. And frankly, life is never all it's cracked up to be.

You didn't fail. You lived and learned. I'm happy you're back, even though I haven't read very much, I love your voice.

Check out our website, too, which is dedicated to all things Dachshund :)

Posted by: Miss Burb | July 31, 2008 02:35 PM

welcome back, doxie. I just had a similar experience myself, right around the time you were going through yours - so I feel you. Things definitely start looking up though, and I'm glad you're back!

Posted by: Rebecca | July 31, 2008 03:47 PM

I am so happy you came back and sorry for your circumstances.

From the comments you must see how much you are cared about and I too am one of your fans! :)[Is that even grammatically correct? hee!]

Hang in there - and it may just be the interwebs, but you do have a heck of a lot of support here.

Hugs to your family, the pups and congrats to Ziz! [cannot wait for THOSE posts and pics - can you?]

Posted by: SkippyMom | July 31, 2008 06:29 PM

Woohoo! Welcome back Miss Doxie! As you can probably tell, you were terribly missed.
Sorry to hear about Dukay, but to add yet another cliche to the bonfire: When one door closes, another shall open.

Congrats to Ziz!

I read the new "About" page that Moveable Type seems to have messed up. Two bad dogs? I hope the dogs are ok.

Lastly:

Wordpress is your friend. I've been using Wordpress for years now and the only problems I've ever had with it was my own mistake for not reading the upgrade instructions. The latest version is the best yet, and EASY to get up and running. Plus you can add all sorts of neat features and such. In fact; I'd be happy to help you get a WP site set up if you wanted. In addition to my own site, I've also set up another that you might find worth visiting. Funny stuff!
664-The Neighbor of the Beast

Posted by: Momcat | August 1, 2008 12:28 AM

You're back!
I am so sad for you that you had bad times, and so happy for myself that you are back in all your glory!!! Thank goodness!

I'm sorry you were hurting and I'm glad things are better. Thanks for coming back!

Posted by: Stacey | August 1, 2008 01:15 AM

I'm going to be politically incorrect (and without knowing Dukay)and say...you can do much better! :) You are a beautiful, wildly successful woman...hope you find someone who just can't get enough of you! It's just around the corner...

Posted by: Sarah | August 1, 2008 10:33 PM

The DOGS!!! What has happened with the dogs?!!! Has there been chewing of thong and pooping in shoes? Dear God woman...post about the dogs!!

Posted by: Linda | August 2, 2008 12:32 AM

There you are! I was looking for you - thought we'd lost you for a second there! I checked uder the couch, in all the pot plants, between my toes...

And hey: there are PLENTY of people who love and miss you and cant wait to hear from you - 479 comments cant be wrong!

VIVA Miss Doxie! Here's to fresh start and the next new adventure!

Posted by: Anj | August 2, 2008 02:27 AM

Eh, boys are lame anyway. More about the dogs! The badness of Bo makes me feel so much better about my own monster puppy!

Seriously, you've been missed!

Posted by: Nicole | August 2, 2008 08:39 AM

I would stop in from time to time to see if you were back yet. Sorry about your broken heart, I hope you find someone who can be in step with you on the path of your life.

Posted by: Miz | August 2, 2008 01:37 PM

I'm late to the party, but joining the MASSIVE chorus of folks saying "Sorry, but welcome back." It took me ten years to realize that we were on the same path, just headed in different directions down it! Let the healing continue and the blogging resume!!

Show us the Doggies!! : )

Posted by: Greg | August 2, 2008 03:42 PM

De-lurking to welcome you back; I gave you up for dead so glad to see you're still kicking!

Posted by: midlife crisis | August 2, 2008 03:45 PM

I walked away from a six year relationship (and an engagement), and I can tell you that it was the best decision I have made in my 29 years of existence. In the end we weren't right for each other, and I'm glad we realized it before we did something legal and binding.

Unfortunately, it's just when you think that you have all the loose ends of your life tied up that things unravel.

You are SUCH an amazing and talented writer, and I'm delighted to have you back!

Posted by: IfICouldWrite | August 2, 2008 04:48 PM

What can I say that hasn't already been said? :) Welcome back, Miss Doxie! That kind of emotional pain is horrible...I'm glad you made it through to the other side and things are looking better now.

What doesn't kill you makes you stronger. :-)

Posted by: Wendi | August 3, 2008 10:32 AM

Hooray! I'm late to the party as usual, but having just discovered a new blog post from Miss Doxie, I feel lots better about the world in general! Welcome back, dear one. I'm sorry for all you had to go through, but very glad you are resurrecting your blog, because it's awesome! And so are you.

Posted by: sharon | August 3, 2008 01:10 PM

Hello sweetie,

I've been worried about you over here, and I'm so glad you're back. I'm sorry things didn't turn out the way you hoped they would (the way they should have, darn it!) with Dukay. I completely understand not wanting to face the blank Internet blog page and all the expectant readers.

You do NOT have to go back and write updates, etc. Just let those dusty old files sit. And you don't have to feel bad about not reading all the "where are you" posts, either.

Seven years is a long time. You take all the time that you need to sort things out and grieve the might-have-beens, and don't worry about the Web site. You're a gorgeous, sweet, funny, adorable person, and darn it, people like you. :)

Hugs,
HJ

Posted by: Heather J | August 4, 2008 05:03 PM

Miss Doxie!!!! I can't TELL you how glad I am that you're back on the Internets! :) I used to check your blog for an update, like every day... for a long time; then I stopped. Something just told me to check back in today!

Anyway, thank you for sharing your heart with all of us! We love you!!!

Posted by: Angie | August 4, 2008 10:39 PM

Welcome back, Miss Doxie! In short, you were missed! Stick around, 'kay? :)

Thank you for sharing your heart with all of us... I believe great things are in store for you!

Posted by: Angie | August 4, 2008 10:42 PM

Welcome back, Miss Doxie! In short, you were missed! Stick around, 'kay? :)

Thank you for sharing your heart with all of us... I believe great things are in store for you!

Posted by: Angie | August 4, 2008 10:43 PM

Welcome back, Miss Doxie! In short, you were missed! Stick around, 'kay? :)

Thank you for sharing your heart with all of us... I believe great things are in store for you!

Posted by: Angie | August 4, 2008 10:44 PM

Welcome back, Miss Doxie! In short, you were missed! Stick around, 'kay? :)

Thank you for sharing your heart with all of us... I believe great things are in store for you!

Posted by: GieGie | August 4, 2008 10:45 PM

Yay!!! You're back! I so know what you went through, having been there myself. Glad you are doing better - you deserve it! And thank you for sharing with us. You didn't have to. It was touching! :)

Posted by: Leeny | August 5, 2008 12:06 PM

Oh Miss Doxie, I know I'm not the first one to say it, but I have been there too. Like you, I was not ok, not for a while, and sometimes I still think I'm working on being ok. I ended up starting a blog after it, and it's helped, a lot, though it also took me a long long time to be able to talk about it. And to know that it could happen to someone as smart and beautiful and hilarious as you, well...that's truly baffling. You deserve so much more.

Anyway, thanks for coming back to the Internet. :)

Posted by: DiaryofWhy | August 6, 2008 12:28 AM

Oh Miss Doxie, I know I'm not the first one to say it, but I have been there too. Like you, I was not ok, not for a while, and sometimes I still think I'm working on being ok. I ended up starting a blog after it, and it's helped, a lot, though it also took me a long long time to be able to talk about it. And to know that it could happen to someone as smart and beautiful and hilarious as you, well...that's truly baffling. You deserve so much more.

Anyway, thanks for coming back to the Internet. :)

Posted by: DiaryofWhy | August 6, 2008 12:35 AM

Nearly 10 years ago, a relationship of mine ended. I did not do well when it was all said and done. I did worse than 'not well' in fact. Oh, how I can relate.

Still, I am ridiculously happy to see you back in the blogosphere. You've been missed.

Posted by: Jeanette | August 6, 2008 07:31 AM

I'm so sorry! But also so glad to see you're back. And doing better. I was worried. And had no one to ask.

Welcome back New Miss Doxie!

Posted by: Katie | August 6, 2008 12:43 PM

Glad you're back (and better than ev-ah!!) Miss Doxie.

Posted by: Cindy in PA | August 6, 2008 09:47 PM

I'm so glad to see you back. And so glad to know that you are OK - I was worried something happened to your Dad. I'm sorry to hear about the breakup but glad you are moving forward. Forward is good. Forward is great. I had a hugely horrific breakup - swore off men forever. And then met a guy on a blind date that I went out on just because I didn't want to tell my friend 'no'. And 'lo and behold, he was a prince. A tried and true prince. And I married him 18 months to the day from the day we met and we've been married 18 1/2 years now. So while breakups are painful, they can lead to the 'right' one. And I'm hoping you've found him. Whatever you decide to call him....

So glad you're back. Really missed you!

Posted by: MindyMax | August 6, 2008 11:34 PM

It just made my night (morning?) when I checked your website and saw not one, but two, updates. Thanks for letting us know how you're doing. I have missed your wonderful writing and outlook on life. I'm sorry you had to go through some rough times- sending good thoughts your way!

Posted by: suz | August 7, 2008 03:26 AM

I'm thrilled you're back and sympathize what you've been through. It's tough recovering from a broken heart. There are bigger and better plans for you & I'm glad you're healed and ready to start living again!

Posted by: Roeshel | August 9, 2008 01:39 PM

i lurked after you disappeared and loved what you wrote and was disappointed when i had read everything you had written and disappeared. it was like withdrawal. not just because you are a fantastic and entertaining writer but because i am a weinerdog lover. i have 4, geisterbahn, sparky, slinky, and blacky. i have 10 dogs but 4 are weinerdogs and they are the baddest dogs there are and your stories were so good and should be in some sort of weinerdog comic book or coffee table book for other crazy weinerdog lovers.. anyway it is good that you are writing again and i look forward to hearing about more of your antics. i especially related to and loved the story about the weinerdog bath time.

Posted by: lori | August 11, 2008 12:38 PM

"Sometimes you're running a race you don't want to win." I LOVE THAT. And I'm totally stealing it.

I've really missed you, MD. I went through something similar and someone gave me a book, "What Smart Women Know" and it was choppy and easy to pick up and set down and read in the park or the bathroom, and it made sense, and it helped make the world make sense again. I'm just saying.

So glad to have you back!

Posted by: Patti | August 12, 2008 09:26 AM

I'm only a recent reader, but I'm so glad you are back. Sorry to hear about Dukay, but wanted to say you are very brave to talk about it - since your faithful readers would have taken you back without any explanation at all!

Hope 2008 is better for you than December 2007 was.

LC

Posted by: LawyerChick | August 15, 2008 05:39 PM

Count me in! *hugs*

Posted by: Brighton | August 16, 2008 08:21 PM

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